On a number of occasions we have tried to have sex but it just doesn't happen. This is the first time for both of us...I don't know what the problem is. We do a lot of fore play and he gets turned on alot but when we try, he cant get in! I duno if its me, maybe im not turned on enough cos i am hard to please or i am too tense or something.... When he puts da condom on he goes flat and we work on it again...and as it has happend a few times i think hes nervous the next time he tries to get in.... Maybe we're not doing it right or the fact that some girls just find it hard....
My gf and I had some issues our first time. Or, we actually tried a few times before we exactly figured it out. If you're too nervous, it can make it impossible for both of you--you may be too tense, he won't get hard. So the first thing is to may let it happen a little more on its own. You could set the mood and all, but you don't need to say okay, we do it now, just sort of let yourselves start getting into it. Beyond that, lube will make a huge difference and may make it much easier. And just go slow and cautious. And enjoy.