Have Got A Deep Crush On A Younger Female Co Worker

A younger female co worker (who started working with me recently) has taken a liking towards me in some very discreet & personal ways. Not exactly sexually, but has started brushing her leg against mine during coffee breaks. She knew I could sense her touching me & I liked her way of showing her feelings towards me. No one else noticed & she did it discreetly to. The other day I were just turning my mobile phone on & she asked if I were txting her - even thou I don't have her number. I told her that as well & are now waiting to see if she was joking or lf she wants really my number. She is attractive & I seem to have now developed a big crush on her & she is making more conversation with me than with others we sit with at times. She is 23 yrs younger than me & so cute to talk to & to look at.
She smiles everytime she sees me looking towards her to. She's just got this nice but different way of showing me she likes me more than others have ever shown at work One day she was telling me about some of her own personal beliefs (no not sex) & she sounded so passionate about them that I got a lump in my throat at the time. I felt so emotional during her conversation & were at times, seemed like I were starting to fall in love with her & I had the odd tear in my eye as well.
Although we are both married, our friendship at work has developed more than I expected in a very nice & sometimes touching & surprising ways.
She had given me a private letter she wrote to me to read recently & I felt so taken with her comments. It's now even more nicer to speak to her & see her.
I just don't know if I should ask to see her sometime in private after work as some things we talk about are likely to be overheard by others at work & are private matters & I don't want them listening in at the wrong moments. So maybe meeting her sometime out of working hours would better at times as well for one reason or another.
I have never felt this type of love towards any other co worker before!

 

realistically, she probably doesn't even see you as a sexual being, but rather a nice old guy who is basically a girlfriend to her. unless the private letter says things to indicate otherwise (and things like "i care about you, you're a great friend" don't indicate otherwise).

but either way, it's probably about time to let that wife of yours go, eh?

 

leave that young thing alone
'cuz ain't no sunshine when she's gone.

 

Respect: Yourself, your wife, her and her husband.


http://www.cheaters.com/

It never ends well.

 

I can't support you in adultery nz male.

Hope things are friendly professionally, but I sense you and her are going to do what you want in the end.

 

dont cheat your honey!

 

I knew this day would come nz. I really think, either way, that you and your wife need to sit down and sort things out, most of your posts I have read indicate that you aren't happy with her, and they mention other women/fantasies and stuff. Before you jump into anything I strongly suggest a deep talk with your wife, you might surprise yourself or you might confirm some stuff.

Remember, this girl is a completely different generation to you, your idea of flirting could be completely off to hers, she might be in a happy loving marriage.. lots of things to consider. Dont hurt anyone in the process, be respectful and honest at least, always remember that other people are involved even if it is not completely directly.

 

You seem like one of those guys that thinks a girl must want more if they are friendly to you or even look at you! My guess is this girl probably is friendly to you, because she thinks you are harmless being older and married. Mistake on her part. I have no doubt from the way you post that you would not hesitate to cheat on your wife if any chance came up. Why are you even with her? Is it simply, because she stays? Why don't you be honest with her? The worst that can happen is she will do the right thing and leave you. Then you would be free to chase all these young girls around and live the life you can not stop thinking about.

 

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/you_don't_dip_your_pen_in_company_ink

 

My female co worker & I just seem to have a totally different relationship with each other than we do with others we work with. She has religous beliefs that she shared with me oneday at work & although I'm not into religion, I love her passion she has for it. She was making me feel like she wanted to get to know me better than just a co worker.
People say everyday they like / love someone but aren't in love with them, but just like them in a more sensative way.
I love her in that way as well but I hate to admit I could be getting closer to a more serious in love with her situation?
Now today - 9/1/2013 (after yesterdays start of this thread, I read my horoscope & these are the exact words it read: NB: I sometimes believe the messages in my horoscopes.

Aquarius: You may have a secret admirer & if they are to be revealed,it maybe through someone playing cupid. Alternatively, you can start to get to know someone new yourself, but it will probably develop very slowly. You may even be secretive.
If you are in a tie that feels unsatisfactory you may start to ponder your options.

I can either tell her in a very discreet way I have certain feelings for her & why or just carry on as friends without her knowing my situation I'm now in.
I will give her my mobile number (disdeetly) & if she wants to chat in a more private way by txting or in private somewhere where other co workers are not going to hear our private conversations that we don't want them to hear for personal reasons.
She has told me some personal things that she hasn't discussed with other staff members because maybe she either likes me more than some of them for some reasons & doesn't like sharing what she believes in or dislikes about them.
I just feel like a very special friend to her but with extra feelings for her than I share with other staff I like chatting to daily.
I will update when things either go good or bad. I'm prepared for either.
I just have never had such deep feelings towards another female staff member.
Sometimes a few of us sit together at work during coffee breaks & she & I sit near each other. But if she doesn't like what the others are chatting about at the time, she reads a magazine & she starts talking to me about something totally different to get to know me better & thats when I feel very special - she's just got a ddifferent out look on things that she prefers to discuss with me rather than the rest of the staff.
She's just got a unique personality I love & she knows I like her to but more than she knows it is. I don't want to harm our working relationship but I like her so much more than the others at work I associate with.

 

Yes, we are very friendly professionally - I dont want to harm our working relationship thou in any way. There are some personal things in my past that have occured that I would like to discuss with her as she is the type of person I would talk certain matters with at work & only certain other staff I like a lot. She just seems very special to me than others I get on well with at work. Just a very special friend at work is so great to have now.

 

Her age has nothing to do for my feelings towards her, just her fantastic personality & beliefs and private matters she shares with me & not with other staff we get on well with. She is special to me in different ways & I like that in her own awesome way.

 

big mistake......the fact you are willing and presenting only the ''pro'' side as you perceive it is disturbing

how can you live with yourself knowing you are attempting to break up not only your own marriage but the marriage of 2 other people

get a fucking grip on yourself...you are gonna lose your job and be disgraces not to mention lose your own family's respect

referring to a hororscope?...dude...that is incredibly weak...you are displaying the character of a stick

 

We have a great working relationship & even if she doesn't like me as much as I like her, I will still have a big effection for her. If we just stay as work friends & it doesn't turn into a different type. I admire many things about her & other things I see within her. She's a really nice person & I have told her that to. She has some beliefs that I don't & that isn't a down side. She just has things I either love about her or find pleasurable. If her & I were both single now -I would definately ask her out on a date. Or even if she wanted to met up with me sometime now just for a private chat to discuss anything we wanted to. Sometimes at work you can get others listening in on others conversations that just like to ease drop. So sometimes talking in private can be more pleasurable without any interference.

 

You have already crossed a line in your marriage (unless it was open to start with) by emotionally being involved.

So has she.

Time to take stock of who you are before taking this further.

If your marriage is over then leave as honourably as possible and then seek a new relationship. Very few "affairs" ever work out in the long run...something along the lines of the grass is always greener, until you have to cut it.

 

No our marriage is not over - there are just a few things we don't agree on sometimes & I tend to try & find other ways to enjoy my own time. My wife was & still is a religous person but doesn't talk much about her own beliefs because she knows I have no intensions of being converted. The co worker just is more out spoken about her beliefs & shows a lot of passion for it. Yet I can talk to her's (co worker) about it but there's just something I like about her talking about it that makes me like her more.
Yes I do have emotional feelings for this certain co worker but she has said & done things that made me get emotional about her to. She touches me in a emotional & unique way I have never expericed before. I had a few health probs a few years ago & now I get more emotional about things people say or do sometimes & I never use to get such feelings as much before I had health issues. They are actually nice to experience sometimes now & this co worker has had this effect a few times on me lately. Maybe thats one of the reasons I have taken a big liking to her to - not just because we get on well together at work.

 

I am confused. You never seem to address the fact that you're continually thinking about other women and doing an injustice to your wife. What was the point of this thread anyways?

 

Perhaps if you spent as much time and effort trying to connect with your wife you might be pleasantly surprised with the results in your relationship.

 

Yes, I agee, I like talking to other women who are either better looking or not & have things I love about them or have more than my wife has in some cases. Yes I like looking at other nude women just to see what I like about their bodies or not - no harm in that?
Point of the thread: Just showing how sometimes emotions towards other people can make me feellike or love them for different reasons. One of my health issues a few years ago was --------depression - short term. I now get a lot more emotinal about somethings than I eveer had previouisly & my co worker has made me feel this way a few times without her knowing it. She just has somethings I love about her in her own different ways. No other co worker has had this effect on me before - this one's just totally different & likeable in many other ways I have now discovered thru & about her.

 

My wife & I don't always see eye to eye on different things & that doesn't make it pleasant sometiimes. She tends to manipulate sometimes & I dislike her attitude about them - she tries sometimes to get things or people to do things her way & doesn't always care about their ideas or tries to get them to change it for her benefit in winning another thing in her favour.
One year when we (family) went on holiday, she asked what we wanted to do - we made suggestions & she usually turned things her way or found poor excuses for getting her own way. Half the holiday was ruined because of diagreements or arguements. Now she wants to go on holiday again & destinations I have made as suggestions are being put aside 'again'!
So eitherI go where she wants to or stay at home & use the money for it in another way?