Have cellphones killed the dating scene for us all?

I was talking to some people today about the impact of cellphones and dating.

Before cellphones exploded with public use, we only had house phones. You would call some people, who would call some people, and if ya wanted to go, you would go, other wise you are just in the dark as what happened. So the chances of many people meeting up was very likely.

Now people 'hide' behind their phones and its pretty sad...Its all about getting a number and playing damn chasing games, and mind games. You might get the wrong number, or you get a number but then you are ignored. All of this is just frustrating as a motherfucker.

Sometimes it feels like cellphones single out a lot of people because nobody will call you, unlike the days before cellphones where you would just go and meet.

These new technologies are good at keeping people in there homes with no social contact which may lead to many people developing crazy social anxieties.

 

No, I've never run into this problem. I only take numbers and give numbers to people I trust, if anything being able to use email on my phone has improved my social life. If I don't feel comfortable handing out my number I can exchange emails and get to know them better. Other than online I find that no one really asks for my number, it's always email first. As for going out and meeting friends and alike, it must have been worse to go out and then for some reason such and such couldn't make it and you'd go home wondering what happened when they can now send a simple message or phone call to tell you and your mind is at ease.

 

This is just the problem. A great example of people being singled out and what im talking about.

When we didn't have cellphones people would just meet and you would meet all kinds of people.

Their was none of this 'i dont trust you so you can't have my number!' like their is today.

Their was a time when that didn't exist on the level it is today, not even close.

 

I hate talking on the phone, so text messages have helped me a lot. I'm more likely to get in touch with someone, whereas in the days of the landline I usually ended up sitting by the phone in a ball of anxiety trying to work up the courage to call someone.

but I miss having just a landline because I feel like a cell phone can be a leash. You're reachable no matter where you go. Before cell phones you would just go and everything was more of an adventure.

 

Oh okay, you must live in a time where it's perfectly vigilant to leave all your doors unlocked and windows open, a time where people don't need to worry about the elemental dangers of society. A time where mental illness is near absent and when the population of mentally ill people isn't so rampant.
I live in a time where even if I know the majority of people living in this town, there is an element and a boundary of trust.

 

I like having the cell. More people can get to "that place" where everyone is going. You can get directions on the way; you can make more invitations on the way; etc...

I think it's pretty cool.

 

The more I think about it, the only people who could suggest that mobiles/cell can have a bad effect on dating must be the older people that don't know how to use them.

AMIRITE

 

nobody called certain people when there were just landlines too.

this whole "people would just meet" concept is confusing me. before cellphones people magically knew when and where there were going to be social events so they just went there without having to be informed?

but a landline is literally like a leash. you can't stray more than 15 feet from the phone hookup (a couple hundred feet once cordless phones came around) if you want to talk to anyone on the phone. with a cell phone you can go anywhere and be able to reach people if you want, while still having the option of turning off the phone or not bringing it with you or just not answering it if you don't want to be reachable.

 

Seems pretty clear you haven't read my other posts on this site.

 

Probably not. Was I meant to have?

 

Yes, yes you must go back and read the OP previous forum posts. If you don't go and read the OP forum posts it'll become pretty clear that you haven't, based on absolutely nothing but a difference of opinions.

For the record;

This is not a problem. I call this common sense. What doofus goes and hands out their personal information to people they just met? Jeffrey Dahmer was a "normal" kid in school and look what he accomplished.

As for my opinion, I cannot see how not having mobile communication is more beneficial that having more communication methods.

 

It will only take a sun fart to end all this shit..

 

This post makes no sense. You're saying that just because people can carry their phones around with them now that nobody goes out anymore

 

i can see what he's saying... it isn't a problem for everyone, but the last line of the OP pointing to people developing crazy social anxieties... i mean i don't know if technology is the cause, it's hard to say, but there are all these games people play with their phones, how long you have to wait to text back, everyone having their little circles, and if you're suddenly without a group you can get pretty fucked

sometimes things can get pretty lonely and unfriendly, and whether people always wanted to be like this and technology is making it easier to do, or technology is driving us away, or it's just happening anyway, for whatever reason... it sucks sometimes, i'm experiencing it now actually and texting and everything else just seem to make everything more annoying to go through- not that i really know firsthand how it could be any different, but yeah

 

Or it could just be your face

 

I love cell phones! I hate talking on the phone so texting works for me. If anything I find it is easier to stay in touch with people now. Without cell phones I may have never got past being friends of friends with the lady I am spending my life with now. It was a great way for us to get to know a bit about each other outside our mutual friends and get to the point where we decided we wanted more from each other.

 

I know what you mean op. When I was in highschool (and im orobabky younger than you, so this is when cellphones were starting to get big, but not like they are now), if I got a girls numberit generally meant I wouldcall their house, ask their parents to speak totheir daughter and awkwardly ask her out orsomething like that. Nowdays, i get manymany more numbers, but it means im going to have a long texting thing and then me and my friends are going to tryreallyhard to subtly analyze the psychology behind the texts andits thiswhole big, stupid 21st century thing.... I really did like the siimplicity and elegance that my generation barely got to experience. Imagine the children nowdays, growing up on facebook and tablets, fuck they wont even know what a personal conversationis.

Dont get me wrong. Im a geek and I love tech, but it should be utilitarian, not just part of every aspect ofour interaction. Smart phones turn men into womenand texting turns flirting into some incomprehensible retardation

I think we all just have societal aspergers.

 

Mobiles (cells), on line cyber sex etc etc probably have affected it but insane inflation and general economic issues have probably done far more damage as too many people cannot afford to go out as often or for as long. Harder to meet anyone new or even start up a relationship with people in your social sphere. I dont consider on line chit chat or even pic exchanges actual dating. Even if you garner an interest in someone in the ether it may be difficult or even impossible to engage in the flesh.
Our enhanced technology could be more of a boon than a bust if the global economic clusterfuck didnt get in the way.