Has #metoo and dating apps ruined love culture?

Ignore the facts. That always promotes success.

 

How is that a "fact?"

 

I see your point but in truth, there are a lot of great human beings out there who you might not cross paths with if you view dating as transactional, and adversarial at that. You know? I get that you’ve grown suspicious of women but ask yourself if you do this with other groups of people who have been wronged and have sought justice?

 

Thank you @Deidre!!!

 

i lol'd

 

where's gone with the pilot when you need him?

 

Probably off somewhere overanalyzing an inconsequential social interaction that happened 2 years ago

 

There are no shortage of social interactions and hookups going on in bars (by observation) and I haven't sensed hesitancy or discomfort or fear from men in social situations. Most of the dating apps seem to have the implicit expectation that the guy initiates the conversation, proposes the date, etc. In my experience they heavily mimic traditional gender dating roles. And once you get on the actual date, it's really no different then any other date.

 

when someone tries to talk to me after signing up to fet site after 4mins.... block.
I know it takes more than 4mins to read my profile, bro.

 

Thanks for recognizing the point; I'm happy it wasn't time wasted. The supporting reasons for my point aren't adversarial nor suspicious, just reality we all face today. I'm not adversarial nor suspicious of cars, but I still look both ways three times before crossing the street. And it's not from paranoia, but common sense and self preservation.

I'm not following your reference to transactional, that seems more applicable to a prostitutional interaction. How do you envision applying 'transactional' to dating?

 

Out practicing for emergency landings?

 

About social interactions and hookups in bars etc.: they may be slightly less on average among teens and people around 20.

About the hesistant men: they're there, they just hide that aspect i suspect But the crux about this is: these men were always there in bars etc. It's nothing new.

 

Transactional meaning some men may view women as threats because they just want to move forward quickly to sleeping with them, thus a mere transaction as opposed to wanting to build relationships with them.

 

Okay I see what you mean. Sounds like a one night stand and/or a friends with benefits type scenario, which typically would be mutual/reciprocal where to both sides the relationship is about pleasurable activity together without the expectation of it building into anything of a lasting commitment.

I maintain the rule of the female being the one to decisively initiate any physical advancement, regardless of the expected or hoped long term goals. Simply because a guy is unlikely to be insulted by a girl moving too fast while the reverse is too unpredictable.

I think we're still at the point where if a guy claims she tried to rape me, it would not be taken seriously. Even if the girl's twice his size and much stronger. Unless there's other circumstantial factors like injuries. And we all know how the reverse goes. Her word is all the evidence that's needed.

Just like we don't walk out in traffic expecting everyone to stop for us, we don't automatically proposition girls like we used to. Girls can proposition guys with only the risk of being turned down.

Girls should be aware that this is a factor in why that hot guy doesn't seem interested in her. He's just waiting for her to indicate she wants it to go somewhere. It's a role reversal from our innate biological instincts which makes it hard to adapt. But once we understand the new rules, things can proceed.

 

I think women have most of the power--they control 50% of the money and 100% of the pussy!!

 

As long as they're physically attractive you mean.

 

They say a gun is an equalizer--I say it's a light switch!

 

I don't understand power in a relationship or why people think in those terms. I mean do you like the person or don't you? And if you do, why need all this power bullshit? It's stupid.

I'm sexually submissive and people think I'm meant to relinquish some sort of power to my ultra domineering wife or something. It doesn't work like that lol. People been reading too many porno stories.

 

I agree.

 

Haha that one goes way back!