Guys virginities

ok, i no that loosing ur viriginity is a big deal for some/most girls, but what about guys. is it a big thing? wud u prefer it to be romantic, with the person u love, or is it how the media portrays it, as one big race to bang sum1 before ur mates?

NicelyToasted XxX

 

I think the person ur gonna do it with matters the most. I dont care whether its romantic or not. I didnt have sex until i found someone that was special to me.

 

for the first time, with someone you love.

 

I can only envy those of you who can "lose your virginity" with someone you love. My virginity was taken from me against my will by a pedophile when I was 9 years old. Because of that trauma, I didn't have my first enjoyable sexual experience until I was 20.

-- Skeeter

 

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I am turning 22 soon, and am still a virgin. I prefer to stay this way because of a few reasons:

1. I have to feel something special for someone before I even consider having sex.
2. There are a LOT of diseases out there, and if I chose to have sex with someone, I would want them to get tested for anything *granted they have an extensive past sexual history*
3. I like the way things are going right now,everything is starting to "fall into place" and I feel like sex will just mess everything up...throw me off track.

I think thats about it.

 

For me my first time was with a girl that I was sexually attracted to. I didn't really know anything about her. It was like a race to get inside her. I thought I was a man after I lost my virginity. I was trying to prove that I was a man. I used to pray to God to make me a girl for just a little while. I thought my life would become less compicated as a girl. I struggle with what it means to express masculinity. I have always struggled with that.

 

I can't speak for myself, but my boyfriend has told me that losing his virginity was more of a relief than anything. It was his first girlfriend and he was 18. It was more special to the girl, who was also losing her virginity. The entire relationship was more special to her, in fact.

 

who cares how she looks like, they are all the same down there

 

I guess the relief was from the getting it over with. Sounds like he wasn't really looking forward to it. I can understand that. There is a lot of pressure for guys to be viral studs in our teens. It's a macho thing. I don't think I was relieved, more like I had become a member of the club. Peer pressure is completely destructive to young people trying to be true to themselves. The first time was definately special to me. My girl friend had had an awkward moment with a guy before me, but she told me I was her first to penetrate her. Come to think of it, I was a bit relieved when I got it over with.

 

Well, it was more of a "God FINALLY" type of relief because he had been lonely and horny for a long time. He hadn't done ANYTHING with a girl before that.

 

We tie so much emotion into that first time. I was a late, ever late bloomer. I had put an extreme amount of thought into what I thought my fist time should be like. It was a like a balloon popping, as in a big let down.

PS my first time was so bad and this was after the uncontrolled shivering, I could not cum tried 3 different time and was told to please get off..

 

I think it should matter just as much to guys as it should to girls...even though sex can be a fun thing to just run around and do...I don't personally see myself ever doing that...I prefer to just make love to one person

 

i havent fully lost my virginity yet.. but ive done everything else... i have no regrets about what i have done cuz it was with someone i love... (and the only reason i didnt lose my virginity is cuz i didnt have a condom GRRRR).... anyway... if you have no regrets about what you do then more power to you!

 

unfortunately, I made the mistake of doing it with some random chick for my first time... in the bathroom of a public library... right by the kids section... for three hours... oh god.
Can you say Regret?

 

Yeah, my virginity isn't something I exactly treasure... I feel I'm schizophrenic becuase I want pussy so god damn bad (like a one night stand), but my logical half of my brain tells me that I shoudl get a girlfriend and do it with her, which is what I want to ideally do. But I hopefully wont regret what decision me or my penis makes, haha.

 

it was the worst night of my life cause i couldnt keep it up
screw

 

Don't feel bad I was so nervous my first time I kept going and going, think I lost half my body wait I sweatting. At which some point I was told can you please get off me!!!

 

I don't think so....

 

I would have liked my first time to be better. Drunkenly fucking a complete stranger is not ideal.