Guy friends

I've always been the kind of girl who ends up with a bunch of guy friends and a few girl friends. I dont know, I always liked hanging out with guys more, it was always more chill and I always had more fun. The past few days I've been kinda wandering are any of these guys really my friend? I've been kinda annoyed of guys who supposedly are my friends, but keep hitting on me and trying to sleep with me. It's not even an i like you, maybe we should date. It's a plain I like you, maybe we should fuck. They dont say it like that, but it's pretty obvious.
These have been two guys from back home, I love them both so much, I've known them for a long time now and I know our relation started from nights of debauchery, lots of drugs, lots of crazyness, but we've shared so much more than that. They help me out, I help them out, if they need someone to listen Im here, and try to give them the best advice, I even help one of these guys do his h.w. I just hate it that they keep looking me that way, I've already said so many times in the past, how they are my friends and no, but I keep listening to the same thing and all the nice things they say, always ends in an attempt from them to get laid.
I mean I've been talking to this one friend of mine, for HOURS and he was all nice, saying how he missed me and that he could pick me up in the airport, that he really wants to hang out with me, that it isnt about the drugs anymore, that it was me and my energy. I was like aww , because I think that's great, when people dont want to just get fucked up and instead they just want to hang out. Then he stirred the conversation in another direction, I was like "Peter! No!" and he said.. "ok, ok... but just tell me if you change your mind" and I'm like dude, I'm not gonna change my mind.
I hate it because it drives me away from them. It makes me feel uncomfortable around them and any sign of affection, instead of taking as love, I take it as a you are trying to seduce me, or something.
It makes me kinda sad , because I really dont want them to see me like that and this is something that practically has happened with every guy I hang out with and I hate it, because I like hanging out with guys so much. I know part of the blame is mine, because way back then, I was crazy and it was pretty easy to get me confused, but they KNOW how much different I am now and they still continue with the same thing. It makes me feel like I cant be their friend, because really I'm not anyways.

 

It is a rare girl that is actually as cool as even an average guy. Therefore, they tend to fall back on their tits instead of a personality.

 

No advice and a slightly offensive post. Thanks, this really makes me feel better.

 

Don't take his post personally.

I don't have too much advice for you, although I used to have a lot more guy friends than chicks. I understand how you feel- sexual tensions can fuck up friendships, leaving you wonder if you were even friends to begin with. I'm sorry that you are in this situation. Hopefully things will get less weird with time. Sorry I can't help you!

Peace and love

 

Understanding is just as good

 

Girls use their tits to get male friends? I doubt my barely A breasts were any reason for most of my friends to be males when I was in high school. If that was true, wouldn't those same male friends be hanging out w/ the ditzy double D chicks instead?

No, my love of football, basketball, cars, and wrestling COULDN'T have anything to do w/ my friends being guys- it must have been those little mosquito bites of tits I had.

Whatever-

Peace and love

 

Hmm, I dont love any of those things

 

hmmz, I kinda have the opposite. all girls I fall in love with only wanne be "friends". now imagine how annoying that becomes in the end. I don't know your friends

personally, but it might be possible that it is something like this, they have fallen in love with you, they find out you don't like them in that way, they try to accept it and just be "friends", but no in the end they start to like you way too much again.

just happened to me again.... mabey I should start up my own complainments-threath somewhere

 

I'm 100% positive that neither of them is in love with me. They just want to have sex with me. This is not something new, it has been going on for quite some time, they dont care that they have girlfriends or that Im with someone. Now they are both single, but stillI thought they had finally understood that is NOT happening.

 

I grew up w/ male cousins about my age. One was 3 years older, another 1.5 older, and one 1 year younger. I hung out w/ them more than anyone else while we were growing up, until we got in high school, which even then my older cousin was 16 & I was about 15, we hung out about every weekend. By then, I had many more "masculine" interests than typical girls- like shopping, clothes, makeup, etc. I ran track & cross country and wrestled my senior year. These things "made me too much of a guy for the girls" quoting one of my guy friends. I even boxed a couple guys, one wrestled 119 (I wrestled 103) but our fight was stopped after I got a good shot in at his face and he started to wail on me. I wanted to continue, but the other guys were too afraid I'd break my nose or something.

You don't have to be as "guy" like as I was to have male friends- I was using that example to counter the argument that guys are friends w/ girls for their tits. There are many other things you can have as common interests- music, videogames, tv, drugs, etc. After wrestling, I started hanging out w/ team mates and they smoked a ton of weed; one other thing we had in common. There are many reasons why girls and guys are friends; I was at an extreme end of the spectrum!

Peace and love

 

i guess they are though learners than (is that correct english?). i'm sorry for you, i can understand how this must damage your friendship. i would wonder too wether people chose to meet up with (correct english) me because of my personallity or my looks.

as you might have noticed, i'm not a native speaker

 

I guess mine must have been drugs haha or that I've always been a super chill girl and didnt really think the way most girls do.
I was once talking to a friend and he was like "why girls blah blah" and I said "well, I dont know, that's kinda crazy". His reply was "I dont know why I ask you, you are not a girl, you are Nana (that's my nickname)" hahaha I'll never forget that
though this is another guy who has tried to sleep with me, but that's when we first started hanging out and it didnt happen and then everything was cool.

 

That's ok, English is not my native language either. I get what you mean.

 

It was a metaphor. Even the OP says she enjoys hanging out with guys more. So would guys, except that there is a chance that they get to sleep with the girls.

 

There are some girls I prefer hanging out a lot more than with my guy friends. It just depends on the person, still your post was very offensive. I mean I feelbad already and in two sentences you manage to tell me I'm not cool enough to have guy friends and that they are just there because of my tits.

 

Sympathy isn't my forte.

But you asked if they were really your friends, and I answered no. It wasn't meant to be offensive, it was meant to be truthful. Ask yourself "is your friendship the same as they are friends with other guys?". Probably not.

Or better yet. If you weighed 300 pounds, would they still be friends you? If you were unattractive enough that your run-of-the-mill guy wouldn't see you sexually?

Maybe they would, but just by the numbers, I doubt it.

 

Maybe it's because you're very attractive.

 

Well I do have lots of other guy friends who Im great friends with and have never tried anything with me. Of course our relationship is different, just as my friendship is not the same as with my girl friends, I know our friendship is not the same as their with the other guys. Still, it doesnt mean we dont have a great friendship and that they dont love me for who I am, not because of how I look.
Yes, there have been many other cases were they think the idea of sex is a great one to introduce to our friendship, still I think that the ones with the problem is THEM and not me, it has nothing to do with MY personality, but with the obsession that most guys seem to have with sex to the point that girl = sex.

 

Thanks, but Im just a girl
Some of my guy friends are very attractive too and that doesnt make me want to sleep with them. They are just my friends.

 

Your response was offensive to women who have friends that are guys. Well, actually offensive to women in general.

Peace and love