day 1 - I am having shit day at work (on register), but this one chick that I never met before that works there is helping me get through it, I fall for her instantly day 4 - I ask her for her number, despite only haivng been around her for 4 days, she gives me her number, and her AIM sn too day 5 - I find out that she only just broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months not too long ago (she was dumped) and is not yet over him waiting has always burned me in the past my plan was to go balls out on ths one, it worked so far, but it seems much riskier now that the whole situation is presented before me what the fuck should I do?
I think guys are way more fucked up than girls. they always play that shit that we're emotional and cause the problems. when its the guys who always over analize things like silence and fuck things up in relationships. not all guys though. some are pretty chillin.
everyone keeps telling me to do what I feel, and to feel it out but as far as feeling it out goes, this is a whole new area for me I could walk my ass right off a cliff...
"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover." - Mark Twain don't ever leave doubt. jump off that cliff if you have to.
Just fuckin' do it duckman. Life's for livin'. If she ever wanted you to begin with she's already yours. Best of luck to you.
My thoughts... tell her you're a little unsure where your relationship stands and how to handle her hang-ups on her ex and that she needs to steer the direction... not in those words of course, that'd make you sound like a dweeb, but if it were me, that's what I'd like
so you think I should basically go "hey, I like you, I'm not sure what the hell is going on with you right now, lend me a fucking hand"? not in those words of course, but I am tryying to translate this too myself
But I would wait maybe a week or so... it's hard to know what kind of relationship you have now, if you talk somewhat regularly, sometimes a little light-hearted flirting and she's okay with it, that's what I'd do
I would say hey you know I'm just getting over some stuff too. We are both in a period of transition but I really like hanging out with you and thought maybe we could get together after work and just grab a coffee and talk. Then sit for hours keep constant eye contact and let her do all the talking. Keep saying to her 'That must have been very hard for you". Snatch the condom out of my hand-weed hopper!