Girls has this ever happened to you? How did you handle it?

We got married very young, I was 17 and he was 18. I married to get out of a bad situation at home and he was cute! The problem was that he would Cumm to quick and he wasn't very Big! I did get pregnant so he joined the Coast Guard. The first 2 years I put up with never having a Orgasm! Then hubby got transferred to South Jersey. We lived off base and he made friends with a good looking Bad Boy! After being there a couple months on one of hubby's duty nights I called his friend and told him that my Heaters pilot light went out and asked if he would Cumm and help. That light seemed to go out every time hubby had Duty!

 

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Sounds a like an arrangement i had with an old neighbour, he spent a lot of time as a missionary or something doing church work, some times a few days some times a few weeks, she was a total knock out, late 30s, i was mid 20s, first few times were innocent enough just a bit of friendly flirting, then she called for a hand after a bit of wine one night and then she called for help every chance she got

 

Happened? Yes, to my ex-wife.

Your scenario describes the situation of my ex-wife and me pretty closely - married young, sexually substandard husband not going to come home from work early or unexpectedly, and wife finding sexual satisfaction with a male friend.

I can't describe it exactly from her point of view, but as the husband, I can say that what you describe happened to her. I wasn't a premature ejaculator, but I'm very small, and she had very few orgasms ever with me. She knew what I had when we were dating and what sex was like with me, but she didn't know until after we were married that I was much smaller than average, and that size would be a major factor for her in sexual pleasure. She had something of a "sexual awakening" after we were married.

How did she handle it?

She tried to work around her sexual dissatisfaction, then she turned to another man for sex while I was working. The difference was that we didn't have a child.

Eventually, she decided to divorce me, and when she told me she'd found her own apartment and would be moving out, she told me that my penis was too small to satisfy her sexual needs (which she'd already told me many times after we got married), and that she'd already been seeing other men (which I hadn't known before then). Before the ink was dry on our divorce decree, she got engaged to another guy. I understand from mutual friends that they're still together and blissfully happy. Good for them.

I think that having satisfying sex with another guy led her to stay with me longer than she otherwise would have, but it also made her even more unsatisfied in bed with me. When she was leaving, she said that the sex she had with other guys after we were married was so much better than with me. She found that size mattered a lot to her. She ended it with me after she found just the right guy for her.

There's a university professor and sex researcher in the US who studied women in such situations and wrote a book about it. She found that many of these arrangements are a way for the wives to remain married when sex with their husbands is deeply unsatisfying but there are still good reasons to stay together, such as there being children in the marriage and other parts of the relationship being satisfactory for both husband and wife. In that book, she dealt with women who had sexual relationships their husbands didn't know about, "cheating" wives. She's researched cuckolding, sharing, and other arrangements that involve wives getting their needs met with the husbands' knowledge in other work of hers.