Girls are so different in reaching orgasm?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by musingbird, May 20, 2004.

  1. musingbird

    musingbird Member

    Hi, guys. I've had sexual experiences with several girls. Only one girl has achieved orgasm every time (and pretty easily), all the others seem to be very hard to satisfy, no matter how I try, in whichever position or ...
    When I and that easily-satisifed were doing that, she usually couldn't last for several minutes before she came. Although I felt pleased with this, my experiences with other girls are, to be honest, disappointing.
    Any girls have a clue why?
  2. Sailor

    Sailor Member

    Have you tried going down on the ones who couldn't come..? That's sort of like going to the center of the problem, and should do the trick:)
  3. mystical_shroom

    mystical_shroom acerbic

    maybe if you wouldnt worry about it so would be able to please better..because that way you would be more in the moment and stuff...
    Foreplay plays a HUGE factor, you should have lots of foreplay until your both are ready to explode and then have sex....
  4. makno

    makno Senior Member

    all mood changes aside in individules... there are some harder nuts to crack than others,...real differences that seem lifelong in women ...the hotter the battle the sweeter the victorie!
  5. Mintaoism

    Mintaoism Member

    lots of foreplay my friend lots of foreplay...touchy feely...touchy touchy... squeezy squeezy...
  6. sugrmag

    sugrmag Uber Nerd

    Just ask! Ask what you need to do.
  7. I don't know if this is absolutely true, but I've heard that girls who are new to having sex and are also younger don't get as much pleasure out of sex as guys do. I've been told this changes as they get older, but for awhile it just seems almost impossible to get a girl to orgasm from penetration.

    Clitoral orgasms seem to work a lot easier, for some reason.

    I don't know if this is all correct, but I know it can apply to some people. Try not to worry about pleasing her so much. If you're nervous or worried, that anxiety could prevent pleasure.

    I'm terribly sorry if this doesn't help. Good luck!
  8. musingbird

    musingbird Member

    user__friendly: your words are of much sense to me. Thanks!

    sugrmag: maybe, but some girls seem a little shy and avoid this topic.

    Mintaoism:to be frank, sometimes the foreplay takes more than half an hour.

    mystical_shroom: perhaps you're right, i'll learn to relax.

    Sailor: I have trield the oral thing. Although it feels good for both of us, it doesn't suffice to make her come.
  9. Wicked Eyes

    Wicked Eyes Banned

    Let her frig herself while your fucking her. That usually helps.
  10. cbrmale

    cbrmale Member

    I've had well over 100 sexual partners, and each one of them have been different. The first thing is that not all women will reach orgasm every time you have sex, but it doesn't mean they didn't enjoy the closeness and intimacy. But that is no excuse for not trying.

    You are doing oral, or a mixture or oral and finger stimulation on her clit? Very few women orgasm during intercourse. I usually start with oral, get her nice and aroused, and finish by rubbing the hood of her clit the way she would if she were masturbating.

    Dealing with different women - you need to read her body language. Even if you ask, you may not get all the information you need. Some ladies like a firm pressure during oral, some ladies are very sensitive and need it light. Some like g-spot pressure, some don't. When they don't like something, they will often stiffen and pull away. If you are too hard, they will pull down and away.

    Similarly, if you are too light, the girl will lift her hips and force you to do it harder.

    As well as body language, watch facial expressions. Dead give-away. The last new lover I had was sooo sensitive. It was like reducing pressure on her clit to about half what I give to other ladies, and then reducing it some more. I just watched her face and she gave me all the clues I needed to know.

    The one thing about sex is that you never stop learning. It is not a source of frustration, but one of satisfaction when you 'get it'.
  11. Jimmie

    Jimmie Member

    tell her how good she is .use the old charm . it works. a girl is as good as you tell her i dont mean that in a bad way. all girls are good. when they want to be .peace lol
  12. see in blonde

    see in blonde Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Give her lots of tongue play on the clit, then finger play on the g-spot. Repeat and repeat. Then repeat again. Begin intercourse and prepare to have the skin ripped off your back! :)
  13. JadeWarrior

    JadeWarrior Member

    get her legs up over ya shoulders after lots of tong.. that way ya cock drives her g spot wild.. n play with her nipples.. or suck on her clit slowly pullin her g spot out as much as poss using a vacuum with ya lips then teasing it.. or do that as a 69.. if you can cum together .. congrats.. u reached ultimate climax.. this way..
    i did live sex acts for while, way back when..was degrading in the end.. but i learned true sex moves since..
  14. rush-dude

    rush-dude Member

    In my experience, girls vary dramatically in terms of how easy it is for them to come. My girl is very sexual - able to come 99% of the time (and still enjoying it the other 1%!!).

    But previous girls have all varied - some not able to have an orgasm without a lot of stimulation. I think a lot of it has to do with the chemistry between you - if you don't have love, or at least a strong connection, the sex just isn't going to be as good.

    I just count myself lucky now!!
  15. ihmurria

    ihmurria fini

    foreplay should always take at least half an hour.

    Anyways, back to your "problem" with chicks. Have you asked them waht feels good? Do they masturbate on their own? Have you asked them to masturbate while you watch, so you can get a better idea of what turns them on? Have they ever orgasmed on their own? Have you tried switching your technique and not just going from step a to step b to step c for every chick (formula's never work, every girl is different)

    btw, guys can be very different in what gets them off too, especially during oral sex. and something like only one third of women can actually orgasm through penetration alone. (this stat could be wrong, but still, less than half of chicks for sure)
  16. rush-dude

    rush-dude Member

    I think this varies too - some girls I've been with prefer oral / manual stimulation more, and others prefer penetration.

    But yeah, most prefer the former (IMO).

    We're all wired differently. And what I'm in the mood for one night ain't necessarily the case the next night.
  17. hippychickmommy

    hippychickmommy Sugar and Spice

    There's a saying about how women are like crock pots and men are like pressure cookers. It takes longer for (most) women to become fully aroused to the point where they can orgasm. Diving right in prematurely can make it difficult to have an orgasm. Some women are like that, and some are not. Everyone is different.

    I used to be able to have an orgasm at the drop of a hat until I was put onto a certain medication that has actually been used to treat premature ejaculation and causes delayed orgasms. That of course, is not why I take it, but it is a terribly annoying side effect.


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