Girlfriend's Orgasms or lack thereof.

So I've been seeing this woman for about 6 weeks now, she's 40. She tells me she's never had an orgasm while with a man. Says she has to do it herself. First time we had sex I used my hands and played with the clitoris. I thought she had an orgasm and she said she hadn't. So I was like ok I'll see what I can do next time.

Today was our second time together and I had been doing some reading. I rubbed the g-spot and the clitoris. After about 30 minutes with no orgasm we started having sex then we took a break. After the break I went back to playing with her clitoris again. After a few minutes in she goes crazy. Arching the back, legs shaking and her head flung back. After about a minute of this she's begging me to stop because she can't handle it, it's too intense she says. I asked if she was satisfied sexually now and she said yes. I said well, you ahd an orgasm. She said no, it wasn't because it didn't feel like the ones she has when she does it herself.

Is it possible she doesn't know what it's supposed to feel like. I've seen quite a few women have an orgasm and that was an orgasm as far as I can tell. There are several types a woman can have, right? Anyways, we are trying to figure this out together so if you have any input it owuld be greatly appreciated.

Thanks,

 

If she's had them by herself, then she knows what it feels like. It sounds like you got her close, but not over the edge. Many women look like they're having an orgasm, but looks can be deceiving!

It may be that she doesnt know how to relax and let someone else help her orgasm, or she's not completely letting herself try because, in the back of her mind, she's already convinced herself that it wont happen. Either way, there should be NO PRESSURE. Pressure to perform will almost always mean no orgasm. Instead, just focus on what makes each other feel good. The orgasm will happen naturally.