Girlfriend Moving In

whats up my headies....my names hector this is my first topic here. not much to me, just your average student at UC riverside who likes to have some legit fun. my old friend from back home is on this board, 40 oz and chronic, if you know him lol.

anyways..my girlfriend amanda is moving in with me from 400 miles back home. both of us felt that this is a natural step in our relationship, we didn't have to talk about it at all. i'm not afraid life with her, we get along so well. i act completely myself around her, we have great communication, and we have almost the same beliefs because we had a very similar childhood. wehaven't even fought one time in our long relationship. it'll be nice having someone loving me at home falling asleep next to me everyday

but i know things will undeniably change. has anyone ever been in a situation like this? any tips or precautions?

 

ehhh have you ever travelled with her?

never having an argument and shifting from long distance to no distance could be somewhat turbulant.

best of luck! :cheers2:

 

Don't do it.

 

Imagine all the sex to be had :cheers2:
So unless your girlfriends ugly, I say go for it

 

turbulence is a very accurate description for this transition in a relationship.....shit's about to get real, this is the true test of compatibility....good luck, I hope it works out!!

 

Riverside in the house. Good luck with you and your girl.

 

from what i've seen, you two will be in separate way before Labor day '09.

good luck

 

My bf moved in with me from four states away and we couldn't be happier. There's that transition period where for a few weeks I was bouncing off the walls freaking out and thinking I had made a mistake, but it was just cold feet. If you can survive the initial, "omg, I've lost my freedom," crap that your brain pulls on you at the last second, you'll be fine.

 

Yeah, be prepared for a rough patch at the beginning. No matter how much you love her, and no matter how much time you've spent together in the past, there's gonna be some surprises here.

Remember that being a roommate is a different set of skills than being a boyfriend; now you have to be both.

That said, it sounds like you're totally in love with her, and that's an awfully good start. And there are loads of really great things about living with your girlfriend. Have fun and keep us posted!

 

That's exactly why I say don't do it haha, women are crazy, too fucking crazy to live with and share space with. Especially if you are young, moving in usually ends in a ridiculously prolonged and painful messy break up, again, don't do it.

 

exactly.the first 6 months to a year will be great.then after that it will be all down hill.and if you do manage to still be together wait till a kid falls out of her.after that life gets real bad.dont get bad for her cuz she can just pack up and leave or throw you the fuck out.then take you for a ride through the courts for child support and get every penny she can from you.and that is when they get mean and nasty.down right vicious.worse than the meanest pitbull youve ever seen(and i love pitbulls).dont believe me?you should see where im living at the moment in the freezing cold with my pitbull,all the court papers saying i gotta pay her 300.00 a WEEK for 1 kid that i dont even know if im the father of.all cuz i won a lottery ticket 9 years ago and havent gotten a check from it in 5 years cuz i sold the ticket.

good luck

 

Dear Stella and Puffed Up: this may come as a surprise to you, but some people do manage to live together happily ever after. Sorry it didn't work out for you, but your personal relationship troubles don't necessarily doom this guy.

 

It's all about compromise. You need to be aware of her and she needs to be aware of you. If I learned anything over my many years of married and single life it all boils down to the fact that you don't need to spend every moment with each other. Have your friends, learn to do things you like together and spend time with each other and your friends. Quality time together is just as good as quality time appart. Listen to each other. You should not have to give up all the things you like and she should not as well.

 

that was probably a good 15 to 20 years ago that that would happen.not these days.the courts make it too easy for the women to pop out a kid and leave.and they are allowed to LIE IN COURT.i have everything disproving every word out of my ex's mouth,her lawyers mouth and everything they have on paper.you would think she would end up in some kind of trouble.nope she dont,but i did.she got to move out of state and everything.i dont get to see or talk to the kid but i gotta pay for him.judge wouldnt even let me talk.it took me running from the cops twice to finaly get the bitch judge to let me talk.and when she did man did i make them all look like a bunch of assholes including the judge.

the judge didnt believe me or my psych doctors that i am mentally unstable an unable to work with the public.so to prove that i punched a solid concrete wall and fractured my hand and wrist,dislocated my ring and pinky fingers.the ER wanted to lock me in the psych ward cuz i was gonna punch the nurse(it was a dude,i dont hit women)cuz he made the mistake of showing me the needle before he tried to stick me with it.judge asked what i did to my hand and i told her.and with me hating doctors i havent had it checked out since i did it.i never had a full cast put on it.was supposed to have surgery to have a pin put in it to hold it together,but refused it.its bad now.almost the whole hand is numb and tingly.my ring and pinky are never warm,always ice cold.i cant make a fist,cant hold any more than maybe a pound for 2 minutes before i lose all strength and drop it.ya in the end i fucked myself with that stunt cuz now i cant shift a truck but oh well.the ex didnt get the 300 or more she was hoping for,she got 50.00 a week.and im not done fighting this.im trying to get the money up to get my license back,put one of my trucks back on the road and go live with a friend.then get some money up to hire a good lawyer.there has to be a way i can go after her,her lawyer and the judge and come out of it with money in my pocket.

im never having another kid and im sure as fuck aint gettin married.thank fuckin god i wasnt married.holy shit the problems id have if i was.and living with a bitch again???i doubt it.not worth the headaches.bring em home home,fuck em and kick em the fuck out.

 

^ true story happened to me

 

try telling that to my ex.i would stay home everyday till about 11AM sometimes i wouldnt leave till 2 or 3 in the afternoon.then come home around 10PM.the whole time i was home i was with her doing whatever she wanted.but according to her i didnt spend enough time with her.her new boyfriend is only home 2 days a week.i dont understand that one.

 

Puffed, I'm sure you're already aware of this, but that post makes you sound completely insane. Like "shouldn't be allowed to see his kid" insane. Sorry guy.

 

But the point he makes is valid

As for moving in with your g/f, oh god, hope she's not crazy

 

i am insane.want me to lie and say everything in my life was peachy and perfect?i would love to.id love to wake up every morning and be normal.id love to lay down at night and just fall asleep like a normal person.but unfortunately being almost killed when i was 4,my mothers exhusband trying to kill her when i was 7 and a bunch of other shit i wont bore you with that will never happen.im a mental and emotional mess.medications dont work on me,im on 3 different meds now and im still unstable.a little less volatile than i normally am but not much.

when you go from haveing a nice home,a little money,owning a business,a few vehicles,a family,a dog,and all the other shit that goes with it to haveing nothing but your dog cuz of a bitch then come talk to me.i had to get rid of everything so she couldnt try to take it and so the courts couldnt take it and sell it on me.my home was a mobile home that i sold to a junkyard and watched it get cut up into little pieces and thrown into a dumpster,hows that for a 34,000 dollar hit????close to 70,000 dollars in tools that have been stolen,2 trucks that i spent 60,000 dollars on are just sitting while i watch them rot away,interiors getting ruined by animals looking for stuff to make nests with,my antique car with more money and time than i can remember and it aint even done is destroyed,should be scrapped.ill stop there.i think i have a good reason to be pissed off at her and the world.

 

Thanks for the replies

First of all, she's not insane lol. We are so similar we amaze ourselves a lot....we say the same thing at the same time all the time. unless we're both insane, but hey, even insane people can find love.

we already have some ground rules down, and luckily she agreed to all of them without a fight. number one, she'll give me my space whenever I need it.....sometimes I just wanna relax and browse digg or play some civilization IV, haha. she likes her space sometimes too so that works well. number two, like the rest of the relationship, I told her always to tell me when something was bothering her, instead of bottling it up and blowing up later. But in our relationship we've really only disagreed on one thing, me smoking weed. But even then, she'll let me smoke and even eat it with me sometimes. Lastly, we agreed instead of assigning chores to each person, we're going to do every chore together so we don't get mad at eachother for dirty plates or a brown toilet lol.

we've kind of already experienced some sorts of life together. we have traveled in fact, we've gone to places like SF, Novato, and Sac a couple of times, sometimes over night. we've fallen asleep and woken up next to eachother over the summer for 2 weeks straight max, and even then we still got along great.

i think we'll do great, but I want to make sure it stays that way. i really do love her, shes the kind, loving, beautiful girl who can both make me laugh and fuck me good