First note, Sorry for writing a book but its part of the whole. Well like the topic says it. my girlfriend cheated on me. makes me quite quite sad. Its the worst I have ever felt ever in my whole entire life. Kinda need a background to her and I before I start to type this all out and tell you how I handeled it. Like peoples opinions also. She is an adopted child. She dosent really have anyone in her life accept me. She had a brother who she could vent to and tell her problems and such but he died 4 years ago suddenly. She has kept most things all bottled up in here the past 4 years and started to vent to me a few months ago. I am really the only person who cares for her in her life. This all started 2 months ago when she was talking to my bestfriend in text messages. He was breaking up w/ his GF who stayed with him thru his cancer. He would tell her that she was beautifiul and things like that because it seemed to her that someone else acually cared for her life. He and she tried to have sex 2 months ago but were not successfull. They said they both felt bad and couldent get in the mood. They tried 2 more times not successful. Then last Tuesday they did it. She lied to me and said she had to goto work. Went to his house about 25 miles away. Im not sure who got who drunk but there was alch involved. Eversence about a week ago, it seemed to be like she was trying to kill out relationship, she said she didnt want to hurt me and that I was too good for her. Said I was too fragile to get hurt by her. I knew something was up but couldent tell just yet. I asked her if she cheated on me, Yes. Someone at work, No. Him, Yes. I could tell she was sad and sorry for this, truly from her heart. She just felt like there was another person in her life who cared for her. He didnt. He fucked someother girl on thursday night after he told her that she was special to him, no. I believe that she was truly sorry when we talked. I talked to both of them about this and i got a good picture that my bestfriend wanted me out of the picture so he could be with her, he kept telling me not to take her back, and such things like that. Truth is, I love her so much. I cannot see life without her. She hurt me bad. Like noone ever has. Ever in my life, they both did, not just her, I dont blame just her. It was both of them, he took advantage of her mental state though. We talked and I decided that I didnt want to break up with her. I love her just so much to do that to her and myself. Shes only thing in my life that i truly Love. and I am in hers. I told her though that I woulden't stand for it again, I believe her when she said it would never happen too, she was used, knows she was used, and hates it. She knows I acually care for her. She will not get a second chance with me. I also told her that I wont let her forget this, I never will. She betrayed me and I cannot forget this. I also cannot trust her right now, although some fishy things happened on saturday. --- She works at a resturant, my friend came to me house to give me something, I wasnt home but got a text message. He stayed outside my house for an house then said his car got a flat and spend the next 3 hours fixing it. (cough). My GF said she picked up a shift at her work that night because she didnt want to be alone that night, didnt think I would see her or let her see me. (i did). She and I live close together and I was driving home, he was standing outside her house. So i called the resturand to see if she acually was working, she was and I talked to her told her he was outside her house, she got pissed. Then he came upto her work to give her a note. Just said the he cared for her (BS). I was mad that he was outside her house, I though they had set something up, I called her and left a message on her phone, befor i got to talk to her and sounded pissed. After I talked to her and cleared everything up, she was telling the truth, told her was a good step to forgiving her. I told her I can forgive her because I love her so much that my love can overcome this. Just going to take time to heal my shatered heart and time for me to get my Trust from her back. My question to you all is what do you think? About what happened? and what actions I choose?