girl wanted to go slow, I'm used to fast

So I met this girl, the first girl I've been with, everything was magical, atomic bombs exploded, speeding trains got derailed... the whole enchilada. The full story is of course, private. But there was this one thing that worried me.

The first night I was so nervous I couldn't really stay erect. Luckily she was understanding enough on this subject and everything was still great.

Until the next morning I woke up next to her and found myself comfortable enough to do it for myself properly. And could do it after that AS long as, I was on top, and I was going somewhat fast. Which was all great for me.

But whenever shes wanted to go on top shed want to do it slow and sensual, I REALLY like this. But the thing is, I'd lose my erection. Even though it's really damn sexy, I'd still lose it. After playing with myself some more, I found that, even when just masturbating alone, if I go too slow, I will lose my erection. Years of masturbating has sort of imprinted into my brain that the penis needs ___ amount of speed on it in order to retain excitement. And when wearing a condom, it is even more difficult for me to get adequate stimulation from going slow. But I would really like to get off from going slow and sensual for extended periods of time.

So I need to like... slow myself down somehow. Reset this need for speed on my penis. Because doing it slow and sensual seems far better to me.

Has anyone done this before? I know an obvious plan of attack to accomplish this, but I'd like to hear from a guy that might of had this issue and solved it himself already.

Has anyone done this?

 

That's kind of unusual most of the time if I'm on top a guy will last longer. Maybe you could tell her to speed up a tiny bit, she doesn't have to jackhammer your penis but if you need it a little fast then just tell her. Other then that I really don't know what to tell you. I hope it works out.

 

Try the graduated approach. Take a week or two and jack it slightly slower than you normaly do. Then the next week or two slightly slower than that etc. Make sure you have enough time and won't get interupted. Men get imprinted to get off as fast as possible due to fear of getting caught, cleanup issues etc.

Another thing you can try is a cock ring. You put it on before you get erect once you are erect it keeps the blood in your penis not allowing it to go soft. I've used hair elastics to achieve the same result. You can also use your hand to do the same thing. Take the hand you aren't jacking with and wrap your thumb and index finger around your cock at the base like giving the OK sign and put a little pressure this also intensifies climax like a motherfucker. You can also combine technique 1 with technique 2. Also play games with your libido change up your strokes so that you don't get too used to only one type of touch or stroke.

Peace Out,
Rev J

 

This is very true and also struck me as funny. I got this mental image of all men being mad jackers trying to get off before someone kicked the door in because we hog the bathroom.

 

Hmm, I think you just shouldn't masturbate at all. You would be hornier then anyways, and if you need to go more than twice, who cares.

 

less you masturbate more easy it is to cum during sex in any position and with any speed, this worked for me.