Getting real with portrayals of human sexuality

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by drumminmama, Oct 12, 2017.

  1. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    Saw a TED talk about how porn has skewed how we think about sex.
    http://www.makelovenotporn.com

    It resonated, after all these years of modding here, modding on fetlife and reading a couple other places.

    Then I saw this quote form Eric and Constance, who photograph real couples having real sex, not performing for the camera:
    There is no template for sex, no script, and certainly no editing. Pornography is not normal sex in the way that fast food is not normal food, it is fine to indulge but, a steady diet of it will cause immeasurable problems. Sex simply cannot be defined by an industry, it is defined by people. All too often that is forgotten and the limiting cliches of porn are mistaken as real which, in the absence of honest sex education, can pose a real risk to our society.

    So, how do we return sex to humans, and not cameras?
     
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  3. Noserider

    Noserider Goofy-Footed Member

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    I think the answer to your question can be found in the quote you posted: Honest sex education.

    Sex education--at least, as it was when I was in high school--consisted of biology and anatomy. Here's how you prevent STDs. Here's how a baby is made.

    Perhaps we need to start teaching about expectations, fetishes and frank sexual communication. And that it's okay to be gay and or kinky or whatever.
     
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  5. YouFreeMe

    YouFreeMe Visitor

    I love that quote--such a good comparison.

    I do think that while porn sets up unrealistic expectations for actual sex, that those expectations are mainly held be young and inexperienced people. Experience is a good teacher, here, as over time you come to realize what real live men and women look like during intercourse--come to expect and even appreciate the fat rolls, the tummies, the smells and tastes, the noises, and embarrassing little moments. And the value of communication!

    And yes, perhaps an honest (and less sterile) sex education is the answer to some of these problems, porn will always exist and will continue to be very accessible to any young man or woman with an internet connection. Not sure how to best counteract that one.
     
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  7. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    You lost me at "saw a TED talk"
     
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  9. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    yeah, those are always awful.

    it would help if more humans were willing to actually have sex...
     
    I'minmyunderwear, Oct 12, 2017
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  11. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    I think erotica, and that's different than porn, is available.
     
    drumminmama, Oct 12, 2017
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