Or how women can't win: Women are socially expected to both reject and to be with someone. An impossibility... I'm starting to get wind of our difficulties. Unfortunately most of us take the pains of one side or the other, women or men, without understand the whole picture and its dynamic. Gender relations are full of quandaries, conundrums and double negatives that make relationships essentially impossible. a) I've already mentioned that men are required to be macho and not simultaneously; b) Women are required to be with someone and to reject simultaneously; c) Another social expectation: men are to have a lot of sex (and frequently women will reject men who "appear not to be successful with the ladies") and women are not. Another social expectation...another impossibility; The point is that our Platonic-Christian tradition creates these unsolvable conundrums as a way to curb the tidal momentum of libidinal discharge --- sex! Which it considers dirty in-itself, and only justifiable in the context of metaphysical/non-carnal connections between men and women. Hence marriage...hence love. And all such myths which our biology does not accomodate.