Gay friend

One of my friends is attracted to me. I do like him, and think he is cute/good looking, but i don't have the "damn lets fuck!" attitude with him. Is that me wanting lust, or is that a normal part of any relationship.... (i've never had a boyfriend btw)

 

That's totally normal. In fact, in my opinion its better.

For me, sex is better if there's an emotional basis. I even get off easier thinking about a close friend that I know well, opposed to a porn model online whose name I don't even know.

Your kind is more attractive to me...it makes me feel like I'm not being used for sex and they really care for me.

Just a question, does HE have the "damn lets fuck!" attitude with you?

 

maby u see him as ur friend and feel that a relation ship would change the way u see him and u would rather not do that

 

Yeah im thinking its more of what dark suger said. I DON'T want to fuck him, thats the problem. I guess its hard because he is my friend and I don't really want to make things akward. I guess it will be more awkward if i don't say anything though...

 

Oh, ya, I misread your post.

dark sugers advice was good

 

I usually end up going there

 

lol i do too i dont really see sex as a big deal its like if me and a friend went and saw a movie togeather its not some thing drastic just an expirence.

 

^^^

Especially if you do spend a day or night out together as friends, the movie or whatever event sucks, it's like, hmmmm...let me see, what can two gay friends do to make the day more interesting....hmmm...let me see

 

well it would be my first time so I kind of want it to mean something =\

 

- your right it should and you will probley enjoy it more. - go for it when both of you are ready.

 

so uve never had sex not even with a girl?

 

I've never had sex with a girl and don't want to. <GRIN>

Now with a boi -- well, I'm certainly no virgin and haven't been since I was 9 if you count oral.

Hugz
Bobby

 

that was for slushi but thanks

 

and no oral dont count..............wait does it?

 

nah. even before I admitted to myself I was gay, I knew i didn't really want to have sex with girls. Well, I never made an effort for it atleast. I've done oral with a few guys though but most of that was 15-18 and haven't done anything else since

 

when do u think u will have sex with a man or are u liek not in a hurry

 

well i was in a stupid stage where I was contemplating my sexuallity. I think it was just me being in denial pretty much, and now that I finally accepted i want to have sex, but I guess Im not THAT much in a hurry since I already waited 20 years. I might as well wait a little longer to make sure its worth it. but who knows. college is starting up soon, hopefully I meet someone

 

u should loose ur verg to a friend u find attractive but r not inlove with that way u will be free to explore with other people and still have had a meningfull first time