Gay Affair With Married Bisexual Man With Kids.

First. I'm a guy and I'm 19. I'm having an affair with a 35 year old married man with 3 children. It all started when I went to his office for an appointment. And it just went from there. We do it everywhere. His office, his Mercedes, his wife's Range Rover and it almost happened on his daughters bed but I got emotional and started crying and refused. Anyways about a week ago I was around the corner getting something to eat and this lady sits at my table and stares at me for 3 minutes until she says "Are you sleeping with my husband" I tried to play it off and act like she was crazy and delusional and she said that he's an open bisexual and I'm exactly his type. Me and his wife are both short, mixed race, curly hair and green eyes. She told me how she was stalking us and even showed pictures. She told that I'm a a little boy and I need to stay in my place and get a life and a real legitimant relationship. I'm feeling depressed. Should I cut him off for good?

 

Yes. She has made it clear that she does not consent and you are interfering in her relationship with him. Get a man of your own. Moreover, he's a liar. I make it a point not to fuck dudes who lie about sex. How can I believe what they tell me about sex? If a dude is fucking me, I have asked him all kinds of questions about where he is putting his his dick, and how he goes about protecting himself (and his partners by extension) from disease and infection. If he would lie to his wife about fucking me, what wouldn't he lie to me about?

 

well it all depends - if he is out and open to her, and maybe his kids, as I am, then her objection to you is between her and her husband. Maybe she feels challenged by your youth since

she is presumably around his own age. After all if he is not having an affair with you it will be someone else.

The majority of bisexual guys are in hiding and therefore lying - as are lots of str8 extra martial couples.....so lying is in sexual relationships everywhere sadly. I always use condoms with other partners to protect my wife...and myself.

Simon

 

If she had to track him down, her husband is LYING to her. Openly bisexual does not mean non-monogamous. My point still stands. You don't willingly have sex with anyone you already know lies to someone else about sex. If you do, you are a fool, and opening yourself and your other partners up to unnecessary risk. You stating that lots of people lie doesn't change that. It is not just between him and his wife. He lies to his wife whom he has known much longer than this boy, and with whom he shares things he could stand to lose. If he lies to her, what loyalty can his little plaything expect? If the boy wants to be happy, he needs to find a man of his own, or at least one in a properly non-monogamous relationship.

 

yeah sure lying to his wife is not good but it seems that most people, bi or straight, in extra maritial affairs lie. Just an observation.

Simon

 

35, that means the eldest kid might be close to the OPs age.

Thats when it gets a bit hey hang on a minute, if the eldest is a guy - lol or the reverse and all kids are female and he is neck deep in sympathetic menstrual cramps

Its funny how it works though, it the guy had never had kids it wouldnt be as much of a thing, but because he has kids a lot will jump to icky freudian concepts

 

I am not making a moral judgment about the lies he tells his wife. That is an issue between the two of them. I only say the fact he does it means no one should trust him as a sexual partner. Have sex with him, sure, if you're attracted to him and don't mind being lied to. But if it would bother you that he might engage in activities you'd want to know about, you should pass. How do you know he's honest about always using a prophylactic? How do you know he's honest about how recently he's had a stranger's semen in his mouth? How promiscuous is he, and does his promiscuity fall within the range you think of as an acceptable let risk? He lies about sex, so... you'll never know. The fact that many people are similarly untrustworthy means nothing. Fuck untrustworthy people if you want. It's your body.

 

Does it matter to you that he is married? That his wife clearly cares that you are having sex with her husband, and that she clearly did not know about it before she investigated and clearly does not approve? Do any of these factors rise above the importance of your fling with a Mercedes driving philanderer who seduced you at his place of work?

You have to sleep in the bed that you make young man. You have to look at yourself in the mirror for the rest of your life and know what you have wrought.

Make good choices.

 

Or....

No one is really going to care cos the wife probably doesnt put any effort in the bedroom and / or always tries to blackmail the hubby with sex. And if the hubby is getting younger twinks, probably means he is reasonably hot and is just going to go do it with someone else anyway

No he wont have to think about it for the rest of his life, wont even remember it all that well in a couple years, especially if there are another 100 reasonably hot frustrated married guys to come

 

You could justify your way out of and into anything it would seem. I especially love the "its probably her fault" part.

 

Well now she's onto you and the proof is in the pudding so I would cut him loose. Who cares if he has a benz? Not like he's a sugar daddy and buying you shit.

 

And from the female corner; if you cant suck money out of him, dont bother

 

Not good.

 

Well... He did buy me a 2015 Kia Optima

 

Oh okay then stick with it.