Gang Rape, how does it affect young girls and women.

Hello All,

Note sure whether I have posted this in a wrong place. I have been hearing and reading lots of incidents that happen to young teens and women who have been gang raped by ruthless youngsters who are sexually cannibals.

What would happen to a girl after a gang rape. How can she recover from that bad incident. How will it affect her both physically and mentally.

I am actually a guy who wants to take a initiative for young women who actually get affected by the gang rapists and also want to create awareness among young women as to how they can actually protect themselves against this cruelty that is forced against them.

I feel sorry for those girls and women who were raped by sexual cannibals for their pleasure. How can women protect themselves against this.

 

To answer this question I need to know more about yourself and the culture that you come from.


But the basic answer is that anybody who is raped (doesn't matter how old they are) whether it's a gang rape or not become utterly traumatized and it affects their self-esteem, and sense of security.

And in some cases they turn to drugs and alcohol to cope with emotional stress. Others engage in cutting or suicide if people start judging them or they feel that it's their fault for being raped, they'll try to rationalize it.


Others move on with their life and they hide the experience really well but it comes out in other ways usually in the lack of ability to trust someone else and form a solid healthy relationship, and also with sex involved, it's hard for them to be de-stressed during sex.

Also orgasms may occur during a rape, and this causes a lot of personal guilt because of how we attribute the physical aspects of sex, to the mental and emotional aspects of it and if the individual secretly wanted it or not. They feel betrayed by their body, and it causes guilt, even more so if later in life they find it hard to come with a willing partner in a consenting relationship.

 

Any kind of rape is going to leave an emotion/mental (and a lot of the time, physical) scar on the victim.

From personal experience, you are left feeling weak, vulnerable, hurt both physically and emotionally, disgusted in yourself, confused.

Any woman who goes through it, no matter what age, will deal with it completely differently, there isnt a set way to deal with it. Some will run straight to the police, some will have a complete breakdown, some may not be affected by the attack short term but will experience trauma long term and vice versa. For me I did the only thing I felt I could and hid it away, tried to forget it, didn't tell a soul and just hoped it would go away, I managed to block it out only to find it creeping up on me everytime I felt somewhat happy in life.

The problem isn't 'how do we protect women' the problem is 'how do we stop rapists'. A woman shouldn't have to feel like she needs to be protected when she goes out, and a lot of the time rape is dealt by someone that the victim trusts and knows (could be a family member, friend, aquaintance). Not all rape is the stereotypical 'down a dark alley by a complete stranger' and I also think that a lot of women who experience rape in a safe environment (house) by a trusted person (friend) may actually question whether or not that it is 'legitimate'. That's how I felt anyway, I was in a friend's house..

I suffered panic attacks all through school because of this, lost my trust in everybody, I didn't ever want to be touched or have sex again (my virginity was taken from me, so that was my only experience of sex)..even now, I find it hard to really let go whilst having sex, and sometimes I have to stop, I'm very lucky to have a partner who understands.

It's something that happens way too often but is also ignored way too often!! I learnt that rapists like the control and the power they have over their victim, it isn't always about sexual pleasure (if it was then they could find someone consenting, go to a prostitute etc), its about their desire to control another.

 

Carry a gun.

 

What the heck? Carry two, the key word is 'gang'. Wouldn't want any of the guys to feel left out and rejected would ya?

 

I just figured after the first one was shot the other cowards would turn tail and run.

 

Most likely you're right about that, however you might want to empty the first gun in their wake (while keeping 2nd in reserve) to give them a little inspiration to exit faster....:devil:

 

"inspiration to exit faster". I like that. A permit to carry is easy to get Here,if you're clean. My record is spotless, (like Bud said in Repo Man),so I got one because I could. There have been assaults around the U of O lately, so if I were female, I'd get myself to the sherriff's department and do the process. $250 bucks for protection versus a possible lifetime of grief? Some people need shot.

 

You don't hesitate to shoot a rabid dog even if you feel sorry for him.

 

Agree on that. Most people look human,but many are not,proven by their actions. Those are the ones that need some "inspiration to exit". Or a serious case of lead poisoning!

 

They are the nephillim.

 

Sadly, it is a fact that few women would be able to protect themselves against one determined attacker, let alone several.

Now before I get jumped on by the ladies, I don't say this is a good thing-clearly it is not. I also am informed on this topic, having taught karate and self-defense for years. I remember one student (a brown belt) confidently saying before a class that she "could look after herself". So I grabbed her from behind, dragged her out of the dojo and threw her in my car. She had zero idea- NONE- of how to defend herself in real life.

Prevention is the answer. Walk in numbers. Don't park in isolated places. Wear sensible shoes in which you can run. If the law permits, carry a weapon (it doesn't permit it in Australia- even pepper spray is illegal).

And in case I get accused of sexism, I give the same advice to men. I once dragged a male student out of my dojo in similar circumstances, and again he had no idea of how to defend himself.

 

No guns? No pepper spray? How has this affected civil society? For the better? Worse?

 

You can't even carry a knitting needle.

Some would say it has made the streets safer. For my money, it hasn't. There is no prospect-zero, nada, none, zilch- of an UNarmed woman resisting a gang. That makes women easy targets.

Sad, but an inevitable side effect of a nanny state government that has more random search and seize powers that you US guys would believe.

 

I agree with you ivory. I'm trained in a self defence but at that moment it meant nothing.

When your in that situation, you arent just scared, you fear for your life, you have no idea what else could happen and in a lot of cases you are put into a position where you cant physically move. Had I had a gun on me, I wouldnt have been in a position to use it, infact I'd have been more worried about it being used against me. At that moment, you do not think straight, its not real life anymore and most of the time you cant just kick them in the nuts and run away, or even give them a hook to the nose, or hold a gun to their head. It's surreal and your normal senses just mean nothing. Instinct can even change, mine told me to shut the hell up, had I known it would happen that probably would be a completely different story, but you just don't see it coming.. there's a massive difference between imagining your reaction in that situation compared to how you actually do (or even have to) act.

We can't carry guns here in the UK.

 

This is what I would say to my students almost word for word. All the fancy finger and wrist locks, all the tricky jabs and elbows, the rolls and flops...they go out the window when that stranger, competely unexpectedly, grabs your waist and drags you down the street. Many women say they didn't even have the presence of mind to scream.

And the old "just kick 'em in the balls" bullshit goes as well. Especially when they've grabbed you from behind, as most random attackers will do.

Prevention, prevention, prevention.

This hasn't stopped me teaching my daughter the dirtiest most dangerous moves I know, but I have no illusions about her capacity to remember to use them if the poo hits the propellor. I have also drummed avoidance into her as the major protective factor.

 

Here in Arizona anyone may carry concealed without the requirement of any permit etc. This as a general rule makes for a very polite society. I too have taught martial arts for years, but theres no denying anyone can be caught by surprise or in a compromised situation.

 

Really.... cool.

I should go to az.

But I guess they have some of the same LEO madness as tx (arpio and such).

 

Sorry, didn't get the code book. Do you speak American?

 

are you saying you dont know what LEO and arpio are?