Funeral

So, my grandmother passed away on Monday at 92.

Tomorrow is the funeral.

I hate funerals, not because of their somber nature or that I find them depressing, but because you have to see and inevitably talk to "family" which you haven't seen in years and don't really have anything to say to. For me it makes for an uncomfortable situation I am eager to get over with and out of the way.

I also find it funny how most of the people at a funeral would probably not be there if it wasn't for obligation and feeling guilty if they didn't show up.

When I die, just cremate my body and end it. I don't want some goofy ceremony held in my honor with people attending who would rather be elsewhere. To me it just seems odd and utterly meaningless.

 

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. I lost my grandma recently, and it was a surreal experience.

Funerals are very strange. Depending on the religion, they can seem very cult-like. Wakes are worse IMO, especially open casket. Such a bizarre social tradition.

I think a lot of family members really appreciate seeing people at a funeral though, even if they hadn't seen the person in a long time. Obviously, funerals are meaningless for the dead person, they are largely for the living.

 

Sorry for your loss.

I haven't been to many funerals, I guess being one of the oldest "kids" means that it will start becoming a trend later in my life than for my siblings.

The one thing I dislike about funerals (and weddings), is the dress-code. I hate wearing a suit and tie, and end up just feeling uncomfortable the whole time.

 

That's actually one of the only things I like about funerals. I actually like to dress up. I just bought a new black sportcoat, tie, and pair of black pants, so I am going to look dapper as hell tomorrow.

 

Sorry to hear that,
but at 92 she had a pretty good run. :mickey:


go tomorrow, talk to everyone you can't stand, step out of your comfort zone. :2thumbsup:

 

Seeing family I haven't seen in a while is usually my favorite thing about a funeral.

I hate how preachers use most funerals (never been to a non religious funeral, so I guess that would be different) to turn it into a big sermon. I want to hear about the persons life, funny stories from people who knew the person best. I don't want to hear a sermon about how the deceased served the lord and is standing on the right hand of god and if you want to see that person again get right with the lord blah blah

Anywho, sorry about your loss

 

i think most people feel the same way, just don't necessarily say so.

sry to hear of your grandmothers death anywayz, hopefully better times lie just ahead :sunny:

 

Sorry to hear this.

Yes, family members can be a real annoyance.

The ideal thing is if you can confide in someone who is there how much you hate dealing with family members. They might be able to help you steer clear.

Hopefully you can put in the time necessary to show respect for your grandmother's memory and then leave soon after.

So if there is a funeral and then a reception, maybe you can skip the reception.

 

yeah, funerals don't make sense to me either. they obviously don't help the deceased, and i don't see how they help any of the survivors either. it's basically just a punishment for the people who survived, as though losing a loved one wasn't shitty enough.

 

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seriously though, sorry about your grandma. and i agree, funerals seem pointless to me. as does the wake. i don't wanna fucking look at the dead body.

 

Exactly. How weird is that? It's one of those things that people do and never think about because it's traditionally what is done at a wake. When you actually stop to think about it, you're just like...dafuq.

 

Hahaha... this made me laugh. Well said.

 

i've only been to a couple of these things. two that i can recall right now

my great uncle died when i was in like 9th grade. i was very close with him, and i refused to go up to the casket. i think i saw him in the casket from a distance, wearing a suit which he only wore probably two or 3 times in his whole life. and that was enough. i didn't go up when i was "supposed to"

 

Open cakets are weird, people here do that veeery rarely.
Anyways, I don't mind funerals and family stuff at all.

 

I hate that boring line of people all saying pretty much the same thing: "my condolences"... That being said, my condolences to you for the loss of your grandma, Matt (and yes, I know they are ment wholeheartly most of the time, just like this one!, but man that whole line of people just sucks wether you are in it or at the receiving end)

 

I should have added that none of your families are as fucked up as mine. (I am talking about extended family, namely my uncles).

 

The Man Has Just Lost His Gram. Your Post Sounds A Trifle Harsh

To Me...



Cheers Glen.

 

Read better When i say my condolensces are ment wholeheartly they are ment as such...
It just doesn't change the fact that that line of condolensces suck, and it wouldn't become better if everyone would go out of their way to say something more original.

 

The line of condolences really does suck. When you have to stand in it its extremely taxing to talk to all these people when you're just trying to grieve and when you go through the line its equally as awkward trying to think of something to say to people you may or may not even know.

 

Sorry for your loss.

"Don't worry. If they come back as a zombie... I'm ready."