Fucking Military Bullshit

Ok I don't know if you all read the post about me having to go speak to a neurologist because my unborn son may have a swolen ventricle in his brain and may need surgery but Thursday I have a doctors appointment about 2 hours out of town to have an ultrasound and an appt. to talk to a neurosurgeon. My husband is in the army and his 1st sgt. just told him that I am grown and can take myself to the apointment and that his duty is with the army and not with me. YES I AM GROWN AND YES I CAN TAKE MYSELF but wold it not be a huge problem if I found out something was seriously wrong and got so upset I couldnt drive myself home, or if they decided to do surgery or induce labor. I have my mom and mother in law that could go with me but I really want my husband to be there, if he can't go I wold rather just take my sister since my mother in law is out of her damn mind and will run my blood pressure thru the roof...........................................

but if he doesnt get permission to go I am going to have to be a bitch and do some calling tomorrow, no way in hell am i going to duke to talk to someone about brain surgery on my son without my husband, that is the stupidest thing i have ever heard, i understand it not being important if it was a regular apointment but this is a pretty big thing for us to have to deal with.
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I don't blame you. The Terrorists will not attack the USA if you dh comes to the appointment with you. His FIRST responsibility is to his family.

I'd raise holy hell if my dh's employer tried to keep my dh away from me, when I need him.

Good luck, mama, I hope everything is OK. Prayers and blessings for you and the little one and your dh and the rest of your family.

 

thanks maggie, i am going to turn into a fucking monster tomorrow if this isnt taken care of by noon..................... i know i cant make the 1st sgt. understand how important it is for my husband to be there with me because he isnt a mother and he has never been pregnant, but i can probly manage to annoy the holy hell out of him and really piss him off!​

 

damn. what a prick! try to butter him up a bit, it used to always work for my mom, to the point that my dad's co would dish out punishments on him for not being helpful to her with the kids. i can't see how it should matter to him unless he's taken a personal dislike to your man, which happens.

 

wot kind of a man gives a flying fuck wot their employer says if the life of their unborn child is the issue?

tell him to give the sgt a good kick in the head.....it might do him some good

 

well since it is the military i woldnt want him to do anything insane cuz this asshole could try to make all sorts of things difficult for him............. my hubby should be getting out of the army in a few months since they fucked up his knee but untill then he still kinda has to play the game.... it sucks but i woldnt want things to be harder on him just because some asshole has a problem with him

 

Hun, as a military brat and vet from a military family I would advise you don't waste your time and energy on his sarg , go directly to either the post commander and/or the highest ranking medical officer on the post. Good Luck & Hugs...

 

thanks ranger, i got a note from my caseworker at the ob clinic, HAHA like its going to work. I feel like a kid getting doctors notes to go back to school..... belh... I woldnt consider it a waste of time if I piss him off LOL anywhoo if it doesnt get fixed I am just gonna call my warrant officer father in law and have him sort some stuff out with the guy =) lol

 

Just another reason to love our government. Absolutely take your husband with you. When they told me my son was not going to live to be 6 months old I almost wrecked the car and killed both of us. Fortunately they were quite wrong. My son just turned 33 last week. He is 6' 4" and 300 pounds. He had brain surgery when he was 7 weeks old. He was very small for most of his childhood, only 10 pounds at 1 year. But he's more than made up for it now.

Good luck with your baby. He'll be healthy and strong and not go into the military. Start building that little guy's CO file now.

Blessings,
Kathi

 

thanks dakota's!! thats exactly what i was thinking, i was thinking about how dangerous it wold be for me to try to drive home if the news was really bad. they also may offer me an amnio.... has anyone ever had one?? sounds painful, woldnt think it wold be wise to drive after having a needle put thru my belly, especially since you can leak fluid or go into labor.

 

I wouldn't do an amnio at this point. You're due in a few days. There's nothing that an amnio would tell you that you could do anything about at this point. Have the ultrasound and see what they have to tell you, but don't stress about it too much (Yeah right, that's possible.) Whatever happens, it's not going to be as bad as it seems right now.

Blessings,
Kathi

 

hmm, true, no help to no-one if his duties get even worse (i'da been a terrible soldier, too impulsive)...

wot about going through the army welfare officer (if they have such a thing in the US army)...could they not help?

 

thanks for all the advice mama =)
guess an amnio woldnt really matter now........

 

I have no real advice to offer you funky, other than lots of (((((((HUGS)))))))


I will be thinking about you and little Zion on Thursday-sending you lots of healing energy.

OT-is dh gonna stay in the military or does he plan on getting out anytime soon?

 

he should be out very soon, thank god. i think we are both ready to get as far away from this town as possible...

 

I don't think they could even do an amnio at this point, the baby is too big and there is not enough room to get a needle in there without poking the baby. That's something that has to be done early.....I was offered one at around 17 weeks because my maternal serum screen came back positive for Down's.. (didn't take it and he was not Down's)

Anyway...good luck mama!

 

hey mama i feel for ya. with my third pregnancy my boyfriend was taken away from me 6 days before my due date. 10 days till i delivered. i was a wreck my cousin was there for me and went through it all with me. but it was rough all plans changed at the last minute. be strong and do what it takes to get through. i'll be thinking of you and baby zion and family. blessed be

 

i am really disapointed because everytime i try to give someone the benift of the doubt they act like complete assholes.............. i have just gotten more and more unhappy with the military and cant wait till my husband gets out, it aggrevates me when people treat him like shit and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

 

*hugs*

what a bastard!

 

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