Fuck buddy confusing me

Yeah, such a high horse, "don't cheat on the person you're in a relationship with"

/facepalm

 

The point of my OP is still being missed. It's not strings I'm looking for. I'm trying to understand why the erratic behavior. He gets mad about a simple late text enough to cancel us, then wants it back just a few months later. Guilt and morals has nothing to do with it. If anyone here bothered to read more carefully, one of the first noticeable things is that he is seeking control. Feelings often precede control.

 

this thread is fail. There is a differnece between a fuck buddy and a skank. OP, dont wanna sound harsh, but you are no more than a pussy to your FB, you are only a convienient cum dump.

 

Of course that's all I am. Duh, fuck buddy remember? No big revelation there. Why does he say he doesn't want it, then change his mind? And then not want to be called a fuck buddy? You guys are really dense.

 

I think you are the dense one. We are trying to point out that you are not even his "fuck buddy", that's probably why he doesn't want to call you that. A fuck buddy is someone who you have a casual sex relationship with. But he has a girlfriend. And you have a boyfriend. You are both already in relationships, that trump any of this bullshit sex you have. Thus you are less than fuck buddies. You really are just some vagina that he can cum inside occasionally. It's also possible he's not as cold and calculating as you, and actually has real human emotions like guilt regarding this little venture. But then you probably sleazed your way back into his pants, and him being weak, couldn't turn down more pussy. Who knows. Who cares calgirl? Why don't you go and actually find a real man to be with properly. Why don't you address the big elephant in the room, your life. Because obviously this whole ruining your own relationship and that of someone else is obviously too complicated and nuanced for you to sleep comfortably with, what with all the flip flopping

 

right on man

 

Actually, she's married and has kids.

:2thumbsup:

 

i think you are your friend alike

both need to learn a thing or two about respect for other people

let alone respect amongst yourselves.

 

You guys really shouldn't be posting in this part of the forum. You're all too young and naive. Once real life sets in, the "ideals" you think exist are just in your imagination. Thanks for trying, though.

 

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The "ideals" that exist in your head are also just your imagination.

People are allowed to change their minds, why is that so confusing to you? And just because your relationship with him is of the Fuck Buddy nature doesn't mean you're not attaching strings to it. "No strings attatched" means just that.....it could end and begin at any time without notice. And you might not care about getting caught, but he apparently does. All cheating relationships have rules about when not to call/text/whatever. If you wish to continue fucking around behind his girlfriends back then you're going to have to understand that

 

Yeah, I read that, but I'm gonna continue using "boyfriend", because if we actually stop and consider that she has a husband and children, well, I might get rude up in this thread. :computer:

 

There's quite a difference between saying "don't cheat on the person you're in a relationship with" and the holier-than-thou aggressiveness you used in the previous posts.

 

qed

 

I guess "cheat" is the easy way to interpret it. With FB, he isn't committed, obviously. Said gf must not have too much "friend" in her. With me, it's much more complicated in marriage. Enter my world and see my husband's conduct, and then tell me what you call it. But justifying myself isn't the topic.

So I understand now that FB's "rule" is that I can't text late. My "strings" are that I get to text when I want. Rule-strings-rule-strings.....hm. It's up to him to be clever enough to handle late texts. It's up to me to decide if I want to cooperate.

You types that think you have ethics and morals.....free love isn't for you.

 

Free Love is very much for me. That's why I'm NOT married. But that's just me. Do as you wish I don't judge people for breaking MY moral code.

 

Back to the OP, I think he enjoys the flirting and sex with you, but otherwise does not like the relationship he has with you. Once he gets his groove on, he wants to keep you at arm's length (i.e., no late night texts, no pillow talk, no labeling what your relationship really is).

 

Bravo.

 

Be ready to love sex with others while in a marriage, just as much as you do now. A zebra doesn't change stripes.

 

You act as though marriage were a force of nature, an avalanche, a tsunami, a lightning bolt from Zeus that all sheeple must be struck by, Sisyphus' destiny. You can get out. Now. And he, can not get in. Ever.

And, the little kiddie excuse is just as weak as they come. If I were to put my $$ on something, I`d say you`re married for some kind of material convenience. And, just perhaps, you had the kiddie in the first place because of that material convenience.

 

Kids a weak excuse?! They love us both. No way will we split up their home. Despite a shitty marriage, he and I are mature about it. Right now I'm the only one employed so yes $$$ is a factor, but you have it opposite. Why don't you STFU. You know nothing.

Back to the OP please.