fuck buddies

hi everyone... i just wanted your thoughts on fuck buddies...and experiences whether bad or good.

A couple yrs back i was with a guy for about ten months in a fuck buddy kindof sitcho...but that seems weird for just sex, and we used to always talk about getting together and actually went places together all the time...just a little committment phobic.

But the whole thing ended up making me less trusting and so forth, and now i find myself in a similar position. i met a guy a month or two ago and we sleep together, the other day we went to the beach together, and he talks about us in a way that seems like he may want a relationship.

Are fuck buddies too much work? Is it a bad thing to do if you might like them more because you can be less honest about your feelings?

i like where it's at at the moment..i get sex, he gets sex, we have great sex..i feel so comfortable around him, but im worried that it might end up really bad and one of us might resent the other...

And also, if he were to staright out tell me he want me to be his GF at this point - i would probs be the one to run...things have to go slow in that department for me, because im never sure and can change my mind in an instant and become the icequeen who wont unfreeze for anything...

 

I'm wary of the term...it's like you are pigeon-holing a relationship before it has even had time to morph and grow. Any relationship can become just about anything...perhaps afterwards you can look back and say that "oh yeah, we were fuck buddies...."

 

well no i dont really think of him as my fuck buddy to tell you the truth - or the previous guy...it is a relationship of sorts...i just wonder if it is a bad way to go about having one, even though im kinda getting what i want anyway...but maybe what i want will change...i will just go wit flow and see what happens..

but feel free to drop your own experiences in here

 

I agree with sassure. You just have to be in the moment (a lesson I'm trying to learn right now too) you guys have fun together, the sex is good, and you're comfortable around eachother. If you can't label what you have, then good! Labels confuse things, too many extra meanings. Just be happy, have fun, don't stress

oh, and I know near nothing about fuck budies, but it's just another label, you just gota take things for how they are, not what they are

 

it depends on the people. some people can do alright, but it depends on the people. i believe to each their own.

 

it was more like a mess around buddy but I fooled around a lot last summer with my friends older brother. I have no deep feelings for him and we ended up dating for a short while after messing around but I never really felt anything for him. We would mostly just cuddle and sleep -only sleep together. but I think sex is different than touching each other so while I could never have a fuck buddy I could handle having someone who I just messed around with if i knew I wouldn't develop feelings for them.

 

Fuck buddies are always good at the time. But later on it almost always turns into an uncomfortable situation.

 

drop buddies part

 

If the sexual chemistry is there with your fuck buddy then HAVE FUN & ENJOY THE RIDE! Fuck buddies rule!

 

fuck buddies are great, butt ehy're just that, fuck buddies and shouldn't be anymore then that. WHen you start hangin out and doing other stuff together, its crossing the line of fuck buddies...then feelings come in and everything gets fucked. If you can't fuck them and leave, then its more then that....

 

There shouldn't be a problem with it but everyone I've always talked to tell me they end up in jelousy or some other awful way.


I don't understand why. It should be an equatable deal.


be careful I guess.....

 

its what i call , find them feel them fuck them and leave them, not nice but thats life, when a girl plays hard to get ,i think more of her ,but i love to fuck ,its not easy,

 

well i've know this girl about 3years now and we always had a blast going out and the huging went to kissin to shagin. But there's never been one of them uncomfortable moments. Its not that we meet to have sex but we just go out and sometimes one thing leads to an other, sometimes it don't. I might try a little more then hugin on one of them nights but if i get the ,don't vibe, i just back off i might try again a few hours 'n drinks later but if its the same thing i ain't gonna try a 3th time. But there's never been any trouble between us it's not that i'm "in love" with her but i love her (if ya know what i mean) and i guesse its the same with her. And when she got a BF (who always hates me btw) it doesn't go any further then a few hugs (give or take 1 or 2 times) but we still go out have a blast and i know not to try anything. I can quit imagne with some people it complicates things or that one of them falls in love,
Well that happend to us to, on both sides but we diden't get into it cause we knew it would only end up fucking up our friendship. But after 3 years we still go out have fun 'n hugs she got a bf now so it doesn't end up in bed anymore but i still like being with her and the other way around,..

 

i guess just be aware of the other person. If they're not on the same page as you are I guess you should clear that up. But other than that, what's the problem with having sex?

I love having sex ... makes me feel all warm inside ... if I want to & she wants to, we're sure as hell gonna experience the pleasure ... if it happens often, it happens often ... if no, then it doesn't. aNy strange kynda feelings resulting from this kynda relationship simply is the a problem of the people. I guess just know if you're one of those peoples or not.

 

I think being fuck buddies is a good idea, but you just gotta make sure you don't get attached. I've had some fuck buddies and we get along great, but i don't think we'd ever make it in a relationship

 

if you get attached, you get attached


go with it

 

yeah, i knew asking this question would be complicated..thanks all for answering, but they are all the different voices and reasonings in my head!!! i agree with everyone!!!
But i will go wit the flow cos it is all so good for me at the moment - it doesn't make me claustrophobic, and i have a smile on my face more than usual....mmm mmm.

 

me and one of my friends are fuck buddies i mean well we havent fucked.. but you know, we mess around... but we are GOOOD friends! we are really close and we can joke about what happened or w/e... and when i have a bf he knows not to try anything, cause i won't do anything... i think its just... we are just horny!

 

well i called this guy last night to see him on thurs and he asked me if i wanted to go see a movie with him... see thats a confusing start...is that a date? i dont know

 

a date after a fuck...a little weird????