Fuck buddies who want to kiss and cuddle...

What is your opinion on this?

My fuck buddy is all about kissing and cuddling (as well as the fucking of course) and insists I stay overnight.

Isn't that a bit intimate for a fuck buddy relationship? Nothing like other ones I have been in.

 

Nothing wrong with physical intimacy like cuddling. It's comfy:daisy:. Not to be confused with emotional intimacy, which involves opening up.

 

True. I cuddle with people I'm not intimate with. Human contact is awesome whether it's sexual or not.


OP as far as it being a fuck buddy situation, I wouldn't find it that strange. Just make sure she knows your intentions.

 

I like cuddling and kissing. I also like casual sex. But I've found that my casual sex partners find cuddling and what not to be a sign that I want something more, despite how vocal I am about my intensions. It's like they expect me to be an asshole if I want to keep it casual....but I don't have it in me to be an asshole....I just can't do it. So instead they end up wanting more and then call me an asshole anyway for not feeling the same way. It's quite frustrating. I say what I mean and mean what I say. But the women I've been involved with seem to think every move I make is some sort of code for them to decipher.

 

In my eyes, there's three different categories a person can fall into. Love, lust, and romance. They can also be any combo of the three. I think cuddling with a fuck buddy would fall under lust/romance.

Some people can't disconnect lust and romance from love though. I wouldn't suggest cuddling and kissing those types no matter how much you state your intentions. Things get messy fast.

 

I don't think it is weird at all, it's a regular part of interaction with my fuck buddies. The only concern would be that sometimes people can misconstrue relationships, so just be sure the two of you are on the same page.

 

Kissing and cuddling is A-okay in my book as well as an invitation to stay the night. It's all feel-good physical contact, Though insistence is edging on inappropriate. Stay the night if *you want to*

There is always a risk of someone developing feelings or "wanting more" in any relationship. This cannot be avoided by imposing rigid rules.

Just do what you feel good about.

 

We're both on the same page, so it's all good there.

It's just that other similar arrangements have always been a 'hit it and quit it' type thing and I guess I thought that was the norm.

I'm happy with the way things are, he says he is happy with the way things are, so everyone is happy and extremely satisfied!

 

I should say that cuddling CAN lead to one party feeling I think addicted to it after a while though.

I think here therein, lies the thin line between falling in love with a fwb partner because it's common to feel that "hey what if they find someone else? This will go away should I pursue this person for more than a casual relationship?"

^That happens right? That's basically the thought process in a nutshell or at least I think so.

 

I think he just likes the closeness. He is always touching me.

I'm just not a very touchy feely person I guess so I found it a bit confronting, but he says he is not looking for anything more than sex so it's all good.

 

I wouldn't want sex without intimacy. Can't understand how someone would.

Hands are for masturbation; not friends. Have some respect.

 

So you associate intimacy with love?

 

No. Why did you think that?

 

I didn't think that, I was just curious. A lot of people don't know how to disconnect the two. I just find it interesting what other people's perspective is on that.

 

Obviously. But how am I supposed to tell when I'm dealing with those types? They try and hide it and I've never been good at deciphering their codes and picking up on their childish games. Strangely enough I expect people to be honest.

 

Who's usually the first one to bring up NSA sex? Unless the girl brings it up first, I would assume they're just agreeing with you, then hoping something more will develop. Yeah, honesty. What a concept, eh?

 

I've never had a problem with the kissing.cuddling thing and honestly, think it's a bit odd to have set rules against such things (yes, I have ran into just that... he ended up kissing me anyway. But his rule was a bit odd to me. lol.-
People over think things pretty much.
Oh...and staying over night... no probs with that- except the insisting.
You start INSISTING I do anything and I will insist on seeing myself out the door. *hypothetically this all is..*

I don't see how the silly "rules" would make a difference either way..
but.. the insistence on staying over...EDGING ON to inappropriate? Imo, it's already crossed that line... but I don't like being told what to do... although I guess if it was in a cute little "oh, but I insist!"- English accent typea thing...

Your post is a little over the top there, Duck. In that, that's fine that that's you.. but to say "you can't understand how someone would"-- I'm not even sure how to put this other than you are thinking about what works for you or doesn't work for you- what you want or don't want.. but to judge other people (yes, it is judging if you are sitting there talking about not understanding it, as well as throwing out crazy phrases like "Have some respect"... like two people who agree with something and are just friends and want the same thing and don't want the same things.. how can that even BE disrespectful? Like, okay.. I know we both wanted this and there are no misunderstandings, etc.- but you need to show respect.
(and don't worry... I don't think your friends are just gonna start grabbing you and jerking you off or whatever you seem to be afraid of (lol) out of the blue. ---- or maybe they would--- that would be funny, in this instance, imo.
Too tired for this... your post just didn't make sense. Newsflash- you don't have to understand everything other people do.

 

Well I don't hear about anyone complaining because their 'love-buddy' wants intimacy, if you catch my drift

 

Wait.
Isn't that what OP is concerned about?

 

flip it around, girl.


(I go back and forth to knowing exactly what was meant by that comment,to....not as much..)