fuck buddies vs relationships

i`ve never had a fuck-buddy. & i`ve only known of the concept for abt 14 yrs. how long do fuck-buddies stay "together" as a general rule? & do they sleep together after sex? when would fuck-buddies become relationships if ever? & can relationships turn into fuck-buddies? do fuck-buddies cook for each other? what happens when one or the other wants something more after a few yrs of this? does one feel cheated when the other starts a relationship w/ someone else? it sounds really nice, but i`d imagine it can get kinda lonely sometimes. i just happen to like cuddling, & am just wondering if fb`s do this.

 

I only know fuck buddies....never been in a relationship.
It's all personal really.
Currently I have 2 different steady fuck buddies.
One loves to cuddle, talk, and smoke a blunt before and after sex. Sometime we have a meal together and then had sex. We both agree we just want to have sex with each other, nothing more. I've been with him since I was 18. We've dated other people too, didn't bother me...dunno his feelings about that but I don't think it bothers him at all.

The other is all for sex. No cuddling, no real conversations. We just really enjoy each other for sex. We meet up, say hello, go to our spot to have sex, have sex and go about our business. We live different lives. I've known him for about 11 months now.

I have had a fuck buddy that wanted a relationship but I absolutely didn't want to be in one at the time.
Lately though it has been kinda lonely.
I love to cuddle and it'd be nice to share something more with someone.
But I'm good with the fuck buddies for now.

 

I'd say keep it to fuck buddies. Its impossible to predict emotions and interests - commitments make relationships really shitty most the time. 1/2 mairrages ends in the first five years, in bloody battles in the court....for example.

Logic also says that if you fall in love with someone that you do so unwillingly and thus are subject to this inability. However, we get all fantasy as humans and decide we can love each other no matter what!!!! Then its to late, were stuck and we want our freedom...ahhhh freedom freedom freedom. Its like experiencing a new person everytime and you have all the room to change....muah muah muah muah
Flowers for everyone!

 

Fuck buddies are simple. They are your friends that you enjoy casual sex with. Nothing more nothing less. These are people that you would do normal "friend" things with just add in good hot sex too. The last as long as they two involved want them to. I end mine if I start dating someone or they do. Just out of resepct!

 

hah what does it stop you from cuddling with your so called 'fuck buddy". a fuck buddy is someone you like to fuck with, because he/she is very completable with you in a sexual sense and the fucking is awesome for you, you enjoy it and probably you don`t want it to stop. a fuck buddy is someone who you can call when you feel the sexual pressure and would like to release it. why not being friends with you fuck buddy, why not cuddle with them-it`s all a personal choice and a personal need. but you fuck buddy is not obligated to you in any way (like in marrige for example) they can fuck whoever they like, and the same scenario is for you. Let`s just say this is an open relationship , that`s what it is.

 

i`m glad there`s some respect involved in this. i`ve found lately that "going slow" in a friend/future lover thing just isn`t working too well. & it would really seem to make more sense to just go ahead & have sex & see what happens. some women don`t even wanna cuddle before having sex the first time w/ some1. & i can understand that, cuz some guys take cuddling as prelude to sex. but on the otherhand some women lose respect for a guy who may be hesitant because well, he may not wanna charged w/ something. some women send mixed signals. especially when medications are involved. sometimes a woman can turn on a guy & wanna kick him out for no reason. & from now i kinda get that bs outa before even kissing. i dunno, i guess i picked the wrong woman that time.

 

I find the whole dynamic of fucking someone, keeping in contact, but not committing to them very interesting. I personally find sexually active women a turn on, i like the idea of a woman confident enough in herself to have sex with guys when she wants, and with as many as she wants, without being slutty. our lives always diverge, but then they cross over again, just to sexually gratify each other, there's something alluring about that to me, like i've been so close to this woman, licked every inch of her, but really, i dont know anything about her. I love it haha.

 

I've only had Fuck buddies since I was 18. There have been some disasters where they wanted a relationship. I ended those right quick.
I think being direct with someone from the beginning is key.

My Dick now is near as great as it can be.
We are friends. we just happen to Fuck.

We get drunk and stoned together, I cook, we eat.
We dont do pda unless we're alone.
We cuddle after sex, we have inside jokes, but there is no commitment, no future.
We both know that.
He's older, so he handles it better than a younger guy looking to be in love.
we dont Fuck anyone else more for comfort and no desire to be promiscuous. safety.

 

Never had one myself, but have known several people who have had one, because they like and want frequent sex and have found someone who is comfortable with that kind of relationship.

 

so, what`s the longest period of time one of these has gone on?

 

13 months with this current one, before, a couple of month. never more than a few fucks before they got attached and it all came out and went to hell.
We both are surprised because he said he had never gone more than 3 months with any other girl.
I have rejected him once before, and we stopped talking for about 7 months. We had my sister's wedding at his house, lotsa liquor was involved, we got together, and have a couple times since.
I can tell that there is something unsaid. I asked that we not make it weird, but there is this sadness to him now. He sang to me. He wants to buy me jewelry. He said he wants to get married and have 6 kids (he didnt say he wants to marry me) . He is having his mid-life crisis. I told him to let me know when he found the woman he's gonna marry so I can find a new dick, and he kinda laughs, but not really. My sister tells me that he cant even look at her when he asks about me. I know I should run, but for some reason I always answer his calls and come to him when he asks.
Le sigh.

 

On both of your types of fuck buddies:

I had a fuck buddy that wanted ti fuck and hang out. When we were fucking, by instinct I went to kiss her a few times and she would pull back, push my head away, and tell me no. Finally , one day she gave in and it continued. Finally she told me why she didn't want to kiss. She said she fell in love with me.

Even though I have a girlfriend and family now, I really miss her. I fell in love with her too. she was very good to me when she wasn't spracked out on coke, even then she was good to me. Both me and her got clean at the same time, back in 2003. If I had her last name I would probably look for her. Her first name was Salma and she was from Jordan.

 

I haven't had that kind of relationship yet, hope to, looks to me like it would be ideal. Done tried long term relationships. Sorry, not for me. After a while it is more work than play. One-night-stands are also a bit meaningless and blah.

Think you'd expect both people to be honest though. Would be shitty to let the other believe it was more than what it was.

Life is already complex and demanding and weird enough as it is, if you work in society, as so many of us have to these days. I really could use a break from the drama and "expectations" when it comes to my personal life. Think that's why I support the idea of loose arrangements.

 

I would honestly prefer just an easy lay if I went on an extensive dry spell.

Seriously.

Having a fuck buddy might seem nice but it's going to result in 3 things:

a) You become too comfortable and never go after a real relationship
b) You find a real relationship but don't cut off the fuck buddy creating a problematic position
c) You come to want more than a fuck buddy relationship with the person


See how none of the three above are good outcomes?

Plus if you just get into a real relationship and cut off all contact with that fuck buddy you might lose a good friend.

 

i fuck my ex boyfriend all the time. we just fuck and fuck and fuck. its nice for me cuz i already established a friendship with him since we have ended our past relationships a while ago. now hes my best friend and comforts me with the sex i crave. hes a guy and has cravings so in reality it works. i think he can get lonely sometimes even though he doesnt admit it. i mean how far can your hand actually satisfy you? its better when you have someone to insert or have inserted things into, lol. its not complicated now because our lives are simple. we go to school and work.

 

I wish I had ex's like you. I like different verieties of pussy...

 

Wow, that's heavy...
but it's funny that i just read this and the fuck buddy I actually hang out with recently told me he loves me. I didn't know what to do aside from end the sex with him.
It's not in me to mess with someones emotions.
I feel really bad, he became a really good friend (and an amazing great sex partner!) to me...but I don't feel the same for him. ::sigh::

 

i thought i should state, i would never have a fuck buddy that fucks other people during the same time we are fuck buddying.

 

well i have a fuck buddy on the side right now so i'll try to help. i'll stay with him until either he get's a girlfriend (i'm married but not happily) or we outgrow each other.. we have slept together after sex, we're actually very affectionate towards each other. technically we are in a master submissive relationship but it seems like it's heading towards more. he has offered to cook for me. he isn't a huge fan of my current relationship and if he were to get a girlfriend i wouldn't be happy either....we cuddle all the time. hope i helped