i was wondering, so we grow out of friends or just grow apart from them or what? ive beenf alling out with my mates alot latley, thinking they dont care how i am and get annoyed with me talking about my problems, and slagging me off behind my back. am i just getting paranoid? why does it feel like ive got to grow and adapt to accomadate them for us to stay friends becuase latley its felt like more of a war ground between us than ppl i can turn to for love an support. any advice?
Maybe this is a sign that you need to distance yourself from the people that are bringing you down and widen your circle of acquaintences and find some new friends. Is it your friends that are bugging you the most or your family, or both? If it is both then maybe some therapy would help you sort out why it is that you are at odds with everybody. At least you would get to talk to a neutral person. You are at an age where alot is happening, you have left high school and now are moving on to something new...work or university and so are your friends so it is normal for things to be a little rocky while all of you are adjusting to your new lives. You all have big changes going on in your lives and that is stressful.
Sometimes you do grow apart from your friends. We all change and mature in different ways and sometimes things just are not the same anymore and that impacts our friendships even though it feels like it sucks for that to happen and it can be confusing because its like....here are the people that I used to be so close to and it just isnt there anymore....for no real specific reason at all....it just isnt. That has happened to me more than once and actually recently I parted ways with a friend. She was being negative with me, things were not the same, and she was critical (she apparently didnt approve of the way I was living my life) and even though I had been close with her since I was 15....the friendship was just broken....it happens. I dont talk with her anymore....I wish it was different, but it is just a part of life. Especially at your age.
