I just found out you can catch HPV even with a condom on and that eveif it's lying dormant in your system and you're a woman, you can still catch cervical cancer. I already knew that you can get herpes even with a condom. I also knew that there's a chance of getting HIV from unprotected oral sex, not to mention the above two. I feel like I never want to have sex again. I was thinking about it on the train today: in terms of the sensation in the vagina, a dick is exactly like a dildo, sometimes not even as good! I can masturbate more or less when I feel like it, for however long I feel like it. I'm not that visual with looking at men as with women. What I will miss and feel kinda drawn to though is the sensual, intimate element of sex: the kissing, rubbing, spreading my legs, different positions, dirty talk, emotions...I will miss that, but on the other hand, it seems like it's not all that worth the risk. Besides, I've already done that. What do you think?
So you never go out the house, in case you get hit by a car? Just be more questionable, a good person would be open with you. Remember, lose it if you don't use it!
When casual sex starts feeling like it isn't worth the risks anymore, that usually just means that you're ready to be done with it and it's time to move on to serious relationship sex. I think most women get to that point after a few years of adult adventures. I hate condoms. I love the fact that I can't remember the last time I used one, or needed one.
I didn't use one when I knew it was a long term, monogamous relationship. You can date, have friends etc without sex.... for now save yourself for the right person.
Trust has to be earned. There's nothing more important in life than knowing who to trust and who not to trust. You have to figure that out for yourself. Nobody can help you with it.
If you're not sure about your next bed partner and are not sure you can trust him 100% why not ask him to get checked. Then he can show you a piece of paper and (assuming the result is positive) you're less busy with the chance of getting an std from him. Maybe get a check up yourself as well, or even go together. It feels good to be in the clear and it can be a great start of a new transparent sexual relationship
My dad impregnated two women while he was married to my mom. So he had unprotected sex with at least two other women even though he was married with children (and therefore was having unprotected sex with my mom). My grandfather also impregnated two women while married to my grandmother. It seems like men (and nowadays, to an extent women) just can't be trusted--ever. Maybe just get one FWB bordering on a bf to keep the condoms on?
Okay, so your mom trusted the wrong person. What does that have to do with you? If you're looking for a risk-free life, you're not going to find it.
All guys are the same! Sigh... I agree. Maybe projecting the behaviour of some guys in your family on every man in the world gives you a safer feeling (or does it?) but it really doesn't make sense. You would only be eliminating your chances to get with a trustworthy guy. But then again maybe that's what suits you (OP). As you're already considering giving up sexual intimacy etc. because it isn't worth the risk of really trusting your bed partner
We are not responsible for our history, but we can change our future! Don't let what they did, cloud you, men are not, thankfully! All the same. Trust your judgement, learn to trust others. If you can talk to someone, tell them your fears, and they don't run! Then you found friendship before love, build that, and your half way there..
