so last night was my first time having sex and i went limp ive known this girl and been friends with her for a long time and we've always liked each other. we've recently started getting really close making out and such. anyways last night we started making out and i started fingering her and soon enough we were both naked. i was hard and i put on a condom and stuck my penis in. from what ive heard, i was supposed to very fast since it was my first time but i was thrusting for a good 5 minutes and i couldn't really feel anything. we then switched positions and she was going to get on top but then i went limp. it wasn't totally limp but i wasn't hard enough to stick it in anymore and i could never get it up after that. i was wondering why this happened and if there are any good solutions. i'm totally into her and think she has the hottest body so i have no clue how all of a sudden this happened. i'm hoping it wont happen again, it was pretty embarrasing. i was using a trojan enz condom. thanks
It happens sometimes when you're nervous. Usually the first time with a new person. It's understandle since this was your first time ever. As for condoms, I'd use Durex Extra Sensitive. As the name implies, you can feel pussy through it much better.
Probably performance anxiety. Try a little foreplay first to ease the tension. And I agree with lone wolf about condom choice. Though be warned, they're a little less resilient.
any tips on getting over my nerves? im never nervous around her but i guess this may be it because i wanted to be really good. also how long do you guys usually do foreplay. we were kissing and licking each other for at least a good 10 minutes. its weird because at first i was worried that i would cum right away and now im worried that i wont even get it up
Hmm, it's defiantly the kind of thing you're going to have to figure out for yourself. Also if you were drinking at the time, that constricts blood flow, which makes it harder to get aroused. It just sounds like performance anxiety though. Foreplay is really a for as long as you want it kinda thing. My advice is like going into a cold lake. It's better to just dive right in. Go for it again. These kinds of things can happen. Don't feel bad about it. just dive right in. You guys really like each other right? Then of course it will be good. Follow your passion friend.
I lick her pussy until she cums. My tip is to treat her clit like it's her dick. You want to spend almost all your time licking that. Guys like getting their balls licked, but they want a woman to spend almost all the time on sucking. Light flicking at first, and steady, faster, heavier pressure with your tongue as she gets closer to cumming. I use the circular motion. Swirl your tongue around her clit, alternating with an up-and-down every so often. If you get her off with your mouth, there's not so much to pressure while fucking her. You can give her an orgasm, and then concentrate on getting yourself off up in her hole.
Rick, I have some proper advice for you. Don't worry, I know how you can solve this. Firstly, there is a type of condom made from something else other than latex (I've forgotten what it's called) I think that one would work better, they're thinner so it would feel more like you're not wearing one. They're just as safe though, made by Durex maybe others too. There are exercises that you can do and all men and women can do to strengthen their muscles down there, and make you be able to keep it up for longer. If you Google 'pelvic floor exercises' you'll see the ones I mean. They are contracting and releasing the muscles around your anus, scrotum, penis and so on. You have to squeeze as tightly as you can, hold for a few seconds, then release. You can do it for a certain amount of times for each area - say 20 for your anus, then 20 for your penis. 20 is a small amount; do as many as you have time for. This really does work for men of all ages, it's a muscle group we don't exercise enough and it's been proven to help people who are impotent to get erections again - which is not your problem, but however long you can keep it up for, you can extend the time with stronger muscles down their. BTW you don't do this exercise during sex, perhaps include it in a gym workout as you're lifting weights it would be easy to do these exercises at the same time, for example. Another good thing to do is not masturbate when you're by yourself, as this will obviously give you less sexual energy for sex. Take it slow during sex with lots of foreplay, and remember you don't need to be hard the whole time. If you try to keep yourself at the point where you're near the point of no return, but never cross it, this will train your body to maintain it's erection for longer. It would be a good idea to forget orgasm completely - during sex make the aim to have as much pleasure you can have without having an orgasm. This will definitely help.
thanks for all the replies i know i'm not impotent because i get erections all the time everywhere. even when she is over and were hugging or cuddling i get an erection. after this incident had occurred and we were spooning, i had a really hard erection. i guess it's just performance anxiety that i need to somehow get over.
