hey new here so I’m 24 and my gf is 22 we never had sex this is our 1st relationship ship been together for about a year or so and the other night I started to finger her ive never done this b4 but any way I went straight in and I hit a bone it was a hard bone so I strayed away from that and went down and fingered her that way my question is What is that bone? And do I finger upwards or downwards? Also she was asleep o thought it’d be nice for her too wake up to excitement but I may not have done it right. When she did wake up (10 min) later she pee the bed she said she had a dream that she was going to the bath room so idk what happen. And plz no hate this is serious and I wanna fix the issue
That was her pelvis. Next time wait until she's awake and already turned on so that she's lubricated and ready. Then explore and play together. None of US can know what will feel best to her. So take this as a fun time to share... Best part of long term relationship sex it the exploration and learning. Personally I like when husband positions his palm facing the same direction as my belly. He'll use two fingers in a "come here" motion which causes them to brush my g-spot. Feels amazing. G-spot stimulation can trigger the bladder... So just keep that in mind. Have fun.
She doesn’t really want me to finger her while she is awake she said she wants me to try it while she is asleep and see if it does anything for her but I used lube when I stuck my fingers in her
Try using some lube while she's asleep. Explore gently. And near the top of her vaginal slit is a small button, usually covered in skin, like the foreskin on a cock. Try rubbing a finger around this bud and see how she reacts.
ok so update im thinking my gf may have vaginismus not sure she is making an appointment but its either that or its where she isn't turned on i tried to penetrate and i couldn't get it to go in
Ok, Chuck. Slow down. There's probably nothing wrong for her to see a doctor. You're both virgins and new at this. You get an "A" for effort from me though. Here's the steps to do this the right way. First, make sure she's awake. Bear with me here. She has to produce vaginal lubrication in order for you to get your fingers into her pussy easily. It sounds like she's just to dry. Yes, you have lubrication on them before you start but as you slide them in the lube is wiped off by her outer lips. So she needs to be wet also. Have her awake, tell her things that will make her begin to get wet. Things like how beautiful something about her is or how she turns you on. Second, forget about the pussy for now. Concentrate on other areas of her body. Softly kiss her face and neck. Gently take a nipple into your mouth and swirl your tongue around it. A womans breasts are connected to the pussy. Then slide down and use that tongue the same way on that little button right above the vaginal opening. It's called the clitorus. Ask her how you are doing and adjust to what she tells you. Eventually you will bring her to orgasm. But if not at least she should be wet enough for you to stick a couple of fingers into her pussy. Do it palm up with a lot of lubrication. Use a water based lube which is best for inside her vagina. Then with your hand palm up make that come here motion while feeling for a small bump in there. That's the g spot which, if you gently go about it, will drive her wild. She'll tell you when you hit it. That's why she needs to be awake. The nice thing about this is it takes practice. So if you don't get it just right the first time you get to try again. Once you've practiced this and are getting her to orgasm then try it when she's asleep.
ty for this reply it does help but another issue is that she isnt a fan of me touching her breast or kissing her any where other then the lips so i can't really start any where else but the pussy i may be able to do a little clitoral stimulation or something before i actually stick my fingers in her
