finding out baby's gender

I was just wondering on what other people thought on this issue?
I'm going in for my 19 week routine ultrasound in a week from today, and I wanna know. I KNOW that it's not completely accurate, but I still think that it would be kind of neat to know ahead of time.
so yeah, what are some of your opinions? and why?

 

I don't have kids yet, but I would like to be surprised! Also I am not the kind of person to buy all pink stuff for a girl and light blue for boys... so it won't matter for that...


I really, really like being surprised and having tension until the last moment, so I guess I won't ask for the gender. But who knows...

 

I don't have kids, but when I do, all I'll want to know is if they're healthy or not. Penis or no penis? That can wait.

 

of course I'm hoping that my baby is going to be healthy, too!
I just had awful morning sickness and couldn't move for the first 2 months, and I kinda want some light-hearted news now.

 

congrats and goodluck!

 

I would want it to remain a secret. There's plenty of time to paint the child's bedroom pink or blue after it has been born.

 

With Maddie, I waited-but I KNEW she was going to be a girl. With Virginia, I found out when I was 30 weeks pregnant. But, I also knew that she was going to be a girl. I plan on having another next year, and for some reason I think it will be a boy!! Who knows?


Anyway, I would wait and be surprised. When the doctor tells you "It's a girl!/boy!" It is a very awesome feeling.

 

I really am excited to know if I'll have a niece or nephew. I think the idea that pink is a girl's color is stupid. (My mom just got the baby a toy rabbit for next year; it's pink, but as she put it, the baby won't know all the societal beliefs at four months old.) I really just want to know though.

 

Tenny tiny little me ............... I had exactly the same dilemma!!! I'm now 26 weeks pregnant and at my last scan I was like do I, don't I find out the sex??? For me it wasn't about pink or blue clothes because all of the clothes we have bought are suitable for both sexes .......... I was just so keen to know!!! In the end we decided not to find out and I'm glad that we didn't, as it's like knowing your Xmas present before you open it.

I'd like to have a natural birth and so this is my big incentive for pushing is finding out what this beautiful child is ........... It's worth the wait!!!

Love and peace x

 

with this baby I really wanted to know, cuz of the baby shower, but my next i really want it to be a surprise.

 

I didn't know for sure with any of my kids. When my first two were born, ultra sounds were not as detailed as they are now (they were born in 86 and 88.) and with Lennon and Sage, they couldn't tell. (With Lennon, I had a really early U/S so he was too little to have a "flag" noticable.) I refused pregnancy anmios, as I didn't want to take a chance on losing my babies. I did have an amnio the DAY Sage was born, but she was early and a C section and the only reason the amnio was done was to check her lungs.

I wouldn't risk a baby' life to get info about them, unless it was a life of death situation. I never had triple screens or other test, either.

But all my kids were a surprise when they were born about thier sex.

 

My sister didn't have any U/Ss with her pregnancy. In fact, when I had Sunshine and Moon, my doctor and the midwife ONLY did them with high risk pregnancies. They were not standard procedures, with more careful doctors, at that time.

 

Same here.

Even when other people are expecting it's more exciting not to know the baby's sex.

 

I found out with all three of my children. We didn't have the ultrasound tech tell us, but we had her write the sex down on a slip of paper and seal it in an envelope. Then my husband and I opened it later on that evening together.

With my oldest son, I had a hunch I was having a boy, and if you believe in the old wive's tales of how you carry your baby during pregnancy, I definitely looked like I was having a boy. The tech confirmed my hunch was right.

With my twins, I had a hunch the moment I found out that I was having twins that I was going to have a boy and a girl. I pretty much knew the sex of them weeks before the tech even told us because I could also make out their "parts" on the ultrasound. I was having ultrasounds at every single visit, plus a few in between that, so I had ample opportunity to see my babies and take a peek to see if I could determine what I was having. Right away I knew at least one of them was a boy, but the other one, I was unsure. I ended up having both a boy and a girl, just as I thought I would. I carried my twins all out in the front just as I carried my oldest son though, so the old wive's tale didn't apply because I ended up with both a boy and a girl. *lol*

I always admire people that can wait until the day they give birth, but neither I nor my husband were one of those people who could wait when given the option of finding out. I think it helped us bond even more with our babies in a way, but waiting to find out would have been fun too.

 

Although we did have the ultrasounds, we never had the amnio or CVS. My OB didn't feel it was necessary.

 

That's cool you knew you were having twins. I never knew the sex of my kids, I am pretty psychic about other people, but I never knew what I was having. I was pretty sure Sage was a girl, and she was, but I was wrong with the others. I carried ALL my pregnancies (three girls and a boy) as if I was having boys. I remember people would walk up to me with all my girls and say "That's a boy you have in there." (With Moon, a really cute old black lady came up to me at my dh's work and said, "That is a BIG boy you got in there, honey!") It was a regular size girl. I get REALLY big when I get pregnant, so people always think I am having twins or a gigantic baby.

 

It's fun to hear all your experiences. I've thought about waiting or finding out, but I think that there;s going to be so much excitment when the baby is born anyway, that it would be nice to know now. It seems in a way that it could add a whole new way of bonding with your baby.

 

I loved when people would say "Well find out so we can buy the right color for the baby." I think if the parents want to know, that is fine, but not to do it for freinds and family. (I told people to buy either white or tie dye LOL!)

Funny story. I don't like showers after the first baby. My last baby, Sage came when my oldest was 13, my next was 11 and my next was 8. I had NOTHING left for a baby, but I still didn't want a shower. Well, my mother's family decided to have a "lunch" for me, which was really nice. I didn't want people spending money as many of them had been at Sunshine's shower 13 years earlier.

I didn't know what I was having, and I opened a gift several of my cousins had given me, and it was a red, velvet Christmas dress!!!! I said thank you and then said, "Geez, I hope I have a girl." They had somehow thought I was having a girl (news tends to get screwed up with this family) my mother tends to "forget" she makes things up, or exaggerates, and because they didn't see a penis on the U/S, (Sage wouldn't let them see her genitals) My mother assumed it was a girl. And obviously told everybody without my knowlege.

Well, I was actually glad I got to use the dress (because, when I asked for the receipt, in case it was a boy, my cousins just looked at each other and said "Do you have any freinds with babies, because we lost it." And I knew it was a ReGift!)

 

Yeah, it was really odd, because I had been a day late for my period, and I was like clockwork so I knew something was up. I took a pregnancy test and it came out positive. Well, out of nowhere, I got this strange thought in my head, and it was "you are going to have twins". I dismissed it because I figured it was just silliness.

Well, I went for a check-up at my OB's at 6.5 weeks pregnant, as I had had a miscarriage a few months before and I wanted to be reassured that things were progressing okay. I was a nevous wreck. Normally, my OB didn't see his expecting patients until they were between 8 and 10 weeks pregnant, but because of my fear, they took me in earlier.

My husband was there with me, as well as our oldest son. They were doing an ultrasound to check on me and see how things were progressing, and the tech says "you're not as far along as we thought, are you sure you had the right date for your LMP?" My heart sank, and I told her yes, that there was no doubt because I kept track of my periods and marked them on the calender every month. I felt crushed because I thought my baby wasn't developing like it should and I was going to miscarry again. Well, all of a sudden the tech says "Wait! Okay, hang on here!" and she turns on the large overhead screen to show us. She says to us "here's the first heartbeat...and here's the second!" That was the reason I was measuring behind on my due date. Since there were two babies, they were smaller than a singleton would have been at that point of gestation. My husband and I looked at one another and our jaws nearly dropped to the floor. I mean, we were shocked. No twins ran in my side of the family, and although his mother was a twin from a boy/girl set, we were informed that my husband had nothing to do with me conceiving the twins. Well, okay, he definitely had SOME part , but because they were fraternal and I had released more than one egg during my cycle, hence, both eggs were fertilized.

It was really something because my MIL's twin brother had died during birth and she had suffered all her life because of it. Her parents actually blamed HER for his death. When we had our twins, she said that finally, she felt at peace. For her, it was like being born again.

 

That is a beautiful story! Those twins helped a lot of people heal. They are blessed babies!