finding a gf

I am wondering has anyone in these forums gone on a journey to find a soulmate/lover and not gotten there yet?

I myself am not a bad looking guy or a bad person but the girls/women i try to meet are not special as in worth pursuing as ive discovered.

Many girls have liked me some goodlooking and some not but i wasnt into them then, and the ones that were attractive and that id go out with i thought were messing with me but i had a bad experience once so i thought they were messin with me but they probably wernt.

I tried to get to know a girl at school recently and it seems that she messed up and is like the rest.

I mean when i met her i thought she may be different and have class.

She shook my hand and told me her name and what i talked about wasnt the most interesting but she seemed of with it since i was making conversation.

I said its too bad we cant talk again and she told me the time she takes lunch and that id see her again then, and so i seen her one other time but didnt want to bother her since she was taking a test.

Ive seen her and her friend other times and shed always say hello and ask how i was.

I told her on wednesday that id like to be better friendswith her and she said to talk to her on friday in the cafeteria.

I went there and she never showed, and she was not in the other places she goes at other times of the day.

It seems to me that she is like the rest: not worth a guys time.

It seems to me that if a girl really likes a guy and he asks her a question she will explain then and there not say talk to me on so and so date.

It seems that is just and excuse to make up a reason not to go out or etc.

Does anyone in here have any advice ?

 

I'm confused 2. I read a guy doesn't like if a girl asks them out, but my friend asked her guy cousin & he said it didn't matter. What the hell? Can some guy tell me the right way in landing a guy?

 

If you like a guy then ask a guy out, its alot easier for a girl to do it, and if the guy likes you he will go out with you.

Make it very clear to him that you like him.

I think its easier for a girl to ask a guy out and have it work than if a guy likes some girl and wants to go with her.

Women in america have an attitude problem. They think they can do whatever they want.

Thats why i think muslims and eastern religions are better. It makes it easier for a guy to get a gf for one.

Women that have too much rights like in America is a bad thing, it leads to things like divorce.

Many divorces are for not good reasons, such as they just are sick of the person so they want someone new.

 

i dont think that women having too many rights is the issue here.... guys string girls along all the time just coz they want a root when they dont care about the girl, it works both ways. And women should be able to do what they want just like men do. I think it depends on the girl not the religion. I think that societies high value on looks is partly to blame - girls are taught that they have to be pretty and that looks are very important, so if a girl thinks she is good looking then she thinks that gives her a high worth in society and she can become shallow vain arrogant etc. the girls that string guys along arent the only type of girls out there, and your friend from school might have had something important come up or an emergency, i wouldnt be so quick to assume that she never meant to show up.

 

well sooty the kat, she wasnt here monday either so it sounds like she is ignorant like the majority. You know some girls think its rude if a guy asks them out but actually they are the ones who are being rude. They out to be lucky that they can even have a guy like them. Its one thing if the guy is fat or ugly but its another if the guy is decent looking and has a good personality. Girls that turn down goodlooking guys are pretty much stupid.

 

umm... yeah i'm not even going to waste my time trying to give you advice.. you don't seem like the type to take it.

 

i take it but u being a woman dont admit the excuses that u use yourself probably.

 

i take it but u being a woman dont admit the excuses that u use yourself probably.

 

well i cant speak for the majority but i know im not like that and none of my girl friends are rude like that either. i wish you wouldnt stereotype all women as acting that way. and no girl i know thinks its rude if a guy asks her out! it sounds like you've got a real chip on your shoulder, you know sometimes girls turn guys down for other reasons which are not to do with the guy, like maybe they dont want to go out with anyone at that time.

 

I have no problem with a girl pursuing me. It takes the pressure off me, and I tend to err on the side of shyness/caution when it comes to going right up and asking a girl out. I get to where I have no idea what I should say to make it clear that I want to see about pursuing romance with her. I know the old argument about just pursuing friendship with a girl first and seeing if it will turn to romance. But I think that's crap, because it implies I have to go about living a LIE, acting like all I want is friendship when it's true that I already am hoping for more! Plus, acting like "a friend" when you want to be a lover can screw up your chances for ever becoming a lover, because you act differently with "friends," and god help you if a girl ever comes to view you as a "brother figure," 'cause then you're never getting into her pants!

-Jeffrey

 

Thanks Jeff

 

Yeah! And if a girl spurns a guy's advances, then in a muslim country he can just throw ACID in her FACE and that way NO ONE will ever want her ever again.

Sorry, I find very little at all to like about muslim countries and culture, and if your reason for liking it is just that it makes it easier for a guy to dominate women and force them to have to sleep with him, then you're fuckin' pathetic and so is the muslim culture that enables women to get subjugated like this.

Sorry, women are HALF of our species. They are not entitled to only some of the rights and freedoms of human beings. An entire culture should not be set up around the idea of just men getting what they want out of life. Women in muslim countries have to conceal themselves because the muslim fuckhead men don't feel they can keep from raping women if they should *gasp* see how pretty they are without a fucking burka on?!

-Jeffrey

 

I agree, and gin, though u sound nice, I must admit I don't agree what you're saying about women. I'm sorry to say what u said isn't going 2 endear u 2 the ladies here if you're looking 4 love...

 

Dude, you sound pretty fuckin' much undatable and un-date-worthy.

You sound like a guy who is gettin' himself riled up and ready to do violence against women because you're so hard-up you think it's a conspiracy against you. Anyone who makes weirdo generalized statements like you're doing, I would worry about. These girls, maybe they're picking up on your freaky bizarro-ness and they're making a good decision to stay the fuck away from you!

"It's one thing if the guy is fat or ugly but it's another if the guy is decent looking and has a good personality"... You mean, like YOURS? Dude, if your posts are any indication, your personality is for shit, and you try to say that you're one of these poor, put-upon, unlucky guys who is getting the short shrift from girls who have no good reason to turn you down?!

You need to wake the fuck up to how you are acting. But I don't know if it's possible for such a sick person to realize he's acting sick.

-Jeffrey

 

Jeffery is telling you like it is bro. I am not a great looking guy at all in my opinion, but I pick up on great looking women everyday. You've got to simply be a good guy, vaguely interesting, and confident. Women will admit to you that confidence is where it's at. You can't be timid and expect the average woman to confront you, it's simply not going to happen. Some women will confront you, but generally for a woman to confront you you have to really look like what she's looking for, and she has to have a strong basis before doing so.

You sound a bit immature still yet, and you do sound a bit creepy. You should just take it easy. Ask yourself what kind of woman you're looking for physically (I mean, you can't know her personality from looking at her), and then pursue those women you see out on the street. If you live in a faily big city, they're everywhere, so I mean it's not really too hard. Don't be a prick, don't be weird, and just cast your line out man. You can't catch the big fish by not putting your hook in the water.

 

By the way, it sounds from your post like you're chasing this girl around, I mean she wasn't in the cafeteria, or in the places she "usually is". That's a bit odd, man. You are bound to be put-off by women if you think she's going to rely on you the same way you seem to rely on her. You're screwed relationship-wise if you care for flight, and stay for the fight. Haven't you ever heard the saying "Fight or flight, doesn't matter no way."? You're putting way too much stake in other people and expecting a lot out of them. Women, as far as my experience goes, can pick up on desperation. Just my input though, I could be wrong.

 

Those were nicely said Music

 

hI, IM A FEMALE.... I AM QUITE SHY WHEN FIRST INTERACTING WITH GUYS I DONT KNOW UNLESS IM DRUNK.... BUT ITS A REAL PLEASURE WHEN GUYS MAKE THEIR FEELINGS TRUE AND KNOWN..
iT MAKES YOU FEEL WANTED AND MMMM ITS UNDESCRIBABLE ESPECIALLY WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS CUTE....
CALL ME RACIST OR PERFECTIONIST... I AM NOT A MODEL, BUT I CAN ALWAYS GET GOOD LOOKING MEN!! mY BOYFRIEND NOW, WHOM I MET AT A PARTY HAS BEEN WITH ME 3 YEARS NOW, AND HE IS SOOOOO SSEXXXYYY, WE HAVE A 13 MONTH DAUGHTER AND WE AARE SOOOOOOO HAPPY. SO GUES WHAT I AM TRYING TO SAY IS .... I THINK I FOUND MY SOULMATE... I HAVE BEEN OUT WITH LOTS OF GUYS BEFORE, BUT IT IS DIFFERENT WITH MY BOYFRIEND NOW...
I DONT KNOW, THATS MY VIEW... (THERE IS A SOULMATE FOR EVERYONE!, YOU JUST HAVE TO LOOK IN THE RIGHT PLACES!!)
pEACE MAN

 

No i think everyone in this topic missed the main point. I didnt go looking for this girl by the way she said she would be around on friday in the cafeteria and never showed, she wasnt in the other place either. I didnt talk to her everytime i seen her or everyday before this, but just a few times. Oneday she looked like something was wrong so i didnt bother even talking to her then cause i dont care for that. You know some women will act or say something differently when they are in a bad mood when vs when in a good mood. Its all about state of mind, so it makes perfect sense that if u ask a girl out and she says no that it could be her emotional state of mind. I dont care if it sounds like a stereotype but 99% of women act the way she does, and i dont care to put up with that.

Its called too much power. If it was still the 1800's or even early 1900's you wouldnt have as many rude, conceited girls, because they didnt have the power to act that way then. This equal rights crap screws alot of things up.

Just like the favor for minorities getting into college for free for previous racism- which some see as reverse racism. Im glad that bush did away with that. Its not fair to the rest who have to pay to go to college and who's parents wont pay.

There is no need for feminists because women have too much power the way it is. In my opinion feminists are idiots. Pornstars, strippers etc choose to make their living the way they do, its not a guy who says they have to. Pornstars and models could care less about feminists fighting for female rights.

Im so sick of these feminist idiots whining about maxim magazine, playboy and etc. The women who appear in those magazines choose to do so.

Usually feminists are jealous that they dont have a body like that it seems. Alot of feminists are fat or ugly.

 

Yeah, I mean women are so powerful these days that they can still make 35 cents less on average than a man and still have to deal with a glass ceiling in the market workplace.

What are you talking about you wish it was the late 19th early 20th century? When have you ever had to pay for surf and turf? Back then you certainly did. It was pretty much mandatory. When have you ever had to take a girl out dancing, to a movie and then out to some other arbitrary cash funnel simply to get her to kiss you? Never. Women were just as picky in those days as they are now. You know the benefits to a man of this women's rights movement? A:You get to live in a society where women can vote B:You don't have to do nearly as much to get her in the sack because the rights movement has made women less prude C:She'll pay half the time now, because she's now able to have a real job and D:she doesn't expect a whole lot out of you because chivalry is dead. Face it, you've got it pretty good in today's world partner, and if anything, the women's rights movement is helping your love life. If you're having trouble in your love life, it's not because the antiquated ways of "old" are just that, but simply because you're not good at finding and networking with a female.

After saying "99% are like that", I'm going to have to assume that you have little or no experience with women. Would you like a woman to make a statement implying that "99%" of men (that means you bud) were on the same emotional level as Jake the jock or that you all acted/reacted pretty much in que? No, you'd be incredibly pissed, and you'd think she was an uneducated, inexperienced moron. And you'd have every right to be pissed off and to think that. Women are the same as men. There are millions of different characters out there. I've had girlfriends who were stronger than me emotionally, and most of my girlfriends have also been more rational than I was. It's simply not something you can classify through sex.

You're glad they did away with college affirmative action? Well, he didn't 'do away with it' anyway, he simply disagreed with the way it was done in certain schools, but affirmative action isn't reverse racism. It helps inner-city minorities who are at level with well-to-do whites gain a foothold in our society by giving them a leg up. Awww, I'm so sorry junior, your place was taken by a minority, looks like you're going to have to go to your safety school Duke. Isn't that such a travesty?! Sure, you didn't enslave anyone, or deny them the right to vote and to appropriate housing and opportunities, but the white men before you did. And what happened with that was, very able minorities were left in the ghetto simply because there were no options open to them. You want to alleviate the problem of gang violence and clean up and strengthen our inner-cities? Take the blacks and hispanics who can work at the level of a white man out of the ghetto and allow them the same chance as the white kid who lives in the hills. Besides all that, the actual rate of students who "miss out" because of affirmative action is greatly embellished by the far right. It's not like 90% of these people are losing an opportunity because of this, and it's not like they can't apply somewhere else.