im with my bf 2 years, we went on a break after a year 4 about a month. in that month, i dated a guy 2 or 3 times, really got on well, but ended up back with my bf cos i love him and we realised how much we wanted each other. I still talk to that guy on aim, but haven tseen him in 9 months. we're very very close on aim, and he recently told me hes in love with me. he knows i love my bf and wouldnt break up wit him and doesnt expect me to, but hes always saying stuff like oh if u were here now id kiss u so much etc etc and i never know wot to say back cos i dont wanna be mean, but dont wanna lead him on. i really like him as a friend, but should i stop having contact wit him? my bf knows nothing, cos i know he wouldnt want to know. id never cheat on my bf, but i just feel really guilty.
Not that i completely understand your emotional state, but cheating emotionally is the same as physical cheating. Maybe not to everybody, but in my eye it is. Can't you tell the guy straight up that the feelings are not mutual? And that his friendship is important, but he is making it wierd? That's a good starting point I think...
1) if you haven't seen each other in 9 months, how can he have fallen in love with you in that time? Sorry, I don't think you can fall in love with someone without seeing them in that time frame 2) if he actually loved you, he wouldn't torment you with this shit about how he'd kiss you 3) it sounds like game playing to me. My best friend is hearing similar things from a guy and she has a bf, and I think it's cruel, nasty game playing to try and get some booty. But I'm a little opinionated
when i was seein my ex of 2 years, she had a guy friend that was saying similar shit...well from what she told me, he was saying shit like "i always thought we'd be together" or "just leave him. im better"...etc etc. she told me, which i really appreciated...but i wanted to read the convo, which she wouldnt let me. caused a few arguements. but anyway, if you love the guy you're with, then tell this player to walk away. i cant fault one thing ihmurria has said. hope it goes well. [=
