Fiancee has a weird sex drive....and he can't get it up, or keep it up!

OK i have another post about my relationship, but this is something that has been bothering me. I have been with my fiancee for a year. When we started off in the begining having sex he couldnt really get hard....he said cuz he was nervous. There was one time about 3 months of being together when he couldnt get it up and he suggested watching porn. OK ummm that makes me feel great...not that I have anything against porn but if he needs that to get erect then what am I there for, ya know? Then as the months went on he was hard when he wanted to have sex, yet he would almost go completly limp real fast when we would change positions. He would seem to want it alot...like in the middle of the night and then again in the morning. But lately, like the other night we were laying in bed and I wanted to have sex, but didnt think he did...usually he initiates it. He said "Are you horny?"....hehe...I said "yes"....so it was like...ok sex time...damn so routine. We got on the floor...my bed is rather noisy and he wasnt even hard at all!!! And he hadnt been asleep...so I had to give him oral for about 7 mintues before he became erect at all...and even then it wasnt much. What the hell is going on...I even asked him if he had jacked off and he said no. Is he on drugs? Is he not attracted to me, or does he have problems healthwise?

 

There could be a medical problem involved, or it could be a mental thing.
One of the things I always suffered from was the first time I would be with a new girl I would be super nervous and have a bit of a hard time maintaining. It's rather annoying and pretty much ruined more than a few one night stand situations.
Once I got used to the girl I wouldnt have any problems at all and could maintain with no problems at all. Another thing is that I am have recently seperated from a long term relationship. I had the same problem because I wasnt into her the way I shouldhave been. I got to where I couldnt maintain at all unless I fantasized about other women (horrible yes, not proud of that at all). I would make up bs excuses but eventually she started catching on to what was really happening. I would do the "middle of the night thing" because it was easier to maintain when I was half asleep, or the morning thing because..well u know bout men and mornings.
If I were you I would ask him to just be honest, if he isnt into you in that way anymore try to spice things up a bit. If that dosent work then you may have to explore other options. If there is a medical problem maybe he should see a doctor about gettting some kind of suppliment to help him maintain.
For me it wasnt anything medical, it was all mental and I knew it. I just shouldhave been honest with her from the first time the problem came about.

 

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When I was with my first lover, I had that problem from time to time. Like, whenever I would put a condom right before penetration, I would go pretty much limp and it would take a little more foreplay to get me hard all the way again. Once we started though, no problems.

 

Does he take antidepressants? If not, do you think he might be depressed?

 

That only happens to me when I'm high..... Try doing something wild instead of just plain sex. If that works then you know he needs a bit more of a crazy sex life. Maybe he has been jerking off to porn and comparing you to the movies he watches. If it does not work then it could be a medical problem.

 

Alot of things can cause this, overweight, stress, too much porn, riding an ill fitted bicycle, drugs, booze, prostate problems, lack of interest. I know that when I was young I wanted it a couple of times a day, now, I just don't care that much anymore, unfortunately my wife is at her peak now, so I get it more than I need or really want. Sad the way life works out. Guys are at their peak in the late teens, and women don't peak till mid 30's. So alot of you women have something to look forward to, especially if you're horny now at the younger ages.

Dave

 

Does he take antidepressants? That happens to me now since I am on effexor. It is really fucking annoying, and when I get another serious girlfriend, the drugs have got to go.

 

There,s an injection called Cavaject that's used to help men with erectile disfunction. and it realy works!
U can only get it in the uk by going through a Urolagist.

 

Might be time to enquire of his real sexual preferences

 

Erectile Dysfunction.

 

meh, happens to me at the beggining of relationships, that and i don't need to be hard to enjoy myself when masturbating...i can cum while compleltey limp if i try. he deosn't have to be hard to enjoy you...and i always lose it while changing positions...a lack of constant stimulation is a serious detrement to being able to maintain a hard on, unlike women who are obviously not going to dry up in 5 seconds of changing position...
just because he looses his hard on deosn't mean he's not still horny