Fiancee acts weird, spits up blood and has chest pain...is he doing drugs???

I am engaged and just found out im almost 2 months pregnant. Our relationship hasnt always been peachy. He is pretty emotionally and verbally abusive and has a horrid temper. He has extreme highs and lows that range from one minute to the next, literally! I am around him alot...but not all the time...there has been a few occasions where he is in horrible pain and keels over on the floor from this chest pain...he even has spit up blood about 6 times that I have witnessed...but he refuses to go to the doctor. What the hell is going on?! Is he bi polar or borderline and has a health problem or is he doing drugs?!

 

Moodswings, chest pains, abusiveness? Sounds like a standard cokehead to me. Spitting up blood can be from the errosion of the nose and respiratory system, although, cigarettes can easily cause that also.

 

sounds like he should really see a doctor, but if he is on drugs that might explain why he doesnt want to see one.

 

I have to agree with MusicMan19, sounds like a coke fiend...

 

I have known him for about a few years as a friend of a co worker/friend, more like an aqquaintance....we have been together 7 months....we started bad....he had broke up with his ex...that same day he came over and had sex with me...3 days after that we got together....I dont reccomend having sex when u dont really know someone....but im sure most people know that....it was just one of those things....quite out of character for me. His ex wrote me a letter...very nice tone....saying how he was still talking to her and how he had cheated on ME with her....and that he had names picked out for their children!!! Just like he started doing with me after a few months....I see a pattern....he has given me many reasons to want to leave him and not trust him...yet I stay cuz I love him....ha....what is love anymore is it love when I havent seen him in 3 or 4 days and I dont really miss him at all...and am enjoying the time apart? The thing is he is totally charming and romantic and loving and compassionate when he wants to be....but that is rare...most of the time is an ogre stomping around angry destroying anything in his path. To tell yall the truth do you ever really know someone? If they let you, maybe...but if they lie and change on you...how can you say you know them, let alone...be in love with that person...oh woe is me....love stinks.....

 

You are right blackie....I have stayed...and I can leave if I really want to, I dont enjoy the drama...I want someone to love me and to love who is not a complete psycho...just a freaking normal guy...hell i would take depressed over anger any day. Its just hard to end something that you have invested so much into...if that makes sense...I want to leave yet I am afraid of being alone...like all girls i use to think he would change...but I know he wont.....I hold on to the prince charming him....but all to often the ogre has killed the prince....and I hardly see him anymore. Maybe he was never really there and the ogre is who he really is. Its funny..i guess he warned me b4 we got together by saying that I dont need him...he is an ugly person...now I knew what he meant when he said that....*sigh*

 

Oh I forgot one more thing that made me think he is using drugs....ummmm he has performance problems...bigtime....loses his erection when we are changing positions....really easily...and im not ugly so I am confused and its not that hes nervous...so what the heck?

 

I suggest you have an std check before the end of the first trimester, if he is using or sharing, you may have a lot more to think about.

I wish you the best of luck, leave before he ruins the life of you and your child

 

Babe, look at your post history, you have only made one post about something that isnt a worry, or something to do with your boyfriend abusing you, being a crap lay, or cheating on you, look at all of this trouble hes putting you through, honestly man! Wake up! If you dont I cant say I have any sympathy for you

 

I am waking up....and falling out of love with him...if that didnt already happen long ago....i just dont know how to break up with him or what to say....dammit.

 

just say, "hey you cokehead loser, why dont you get yer shit and fuck off"

 

hahahahah that was great

 

when dating retro, one must remember to stay off the coke...

 

cuz us cute nice girls like the bad boys!!!!! why the hell we do...I have no idea....

 

You need to get out as soon as you can. it doesnt matter if you love him you have to worry about yourself and the child your carrying. if he is abusive in any way your child will have areally fucked up life I know cuz my stepfather was abusive. And if he cheated on you with his ex than that just shows that he doesnt care for you one bit. so pack your bags and get the hell out and dont let love stop you. go to your parents house or some familys house and tel them you situation. if they dont help than there should be some kind of clinics that can help. good luck.
*HUGS*
Fallen Fairy

 

Ok time for major reality check...
your engaged to this man why? from what you say he's unhealthy, emotionaly unstable, and abusive...
You are going to marry and live with a man who's not being honest with you and himself abouthis health problems. You are going to bring a baby into the same kind of world. Why? I say get some relationship counceling and make him answer the questions you asked us truthfully or you guys have bigger problems and should not get married. You deserve better and your baby too.

 

DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN!!!!!

 

heres what you say. I am having a baby and I have to grow up and be resposable for the baby and myself. i can't be with someone who treats me like you do. I can't have that around my kid for obvious reasons.

 

well...thanks for all your support and advice guys...I have also got alot from my family and co workers/friends. Luckily I still live at home...so thats not a problem...we arent living together *phew*....I was going to do it tonite when i talked to him after work on the phone but he left me a message saying he was going to sleep...so I guess I will do it tomorow...but then I will have to do it while hes at work...oh well. I just wanna get it over with. I just hope he doesnt cry and be like "I love you, blah blah....it wont stop me but it will make it harder.
I am just going to tell him the truth which is that I am not happy and our relationship isnt getting any better...that we need to go our seperate ways....wish me luck.

 

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