O what a beautiful place to come to for personal dilemma's. Funny how I somehow value the opinions of people I've never met and share my thought to them, rather than going to a close individual. That said, here is my issue. I've maintained a strong and very close friendship/relationship with this woman I love for the last 7 years. We met at 18 had a short relationship that was killed by distance and young age. Kept in touch repeatedly over the years seeing each other from time to time, recently have been spending a great deal of time visiting one another, Peru, Mexico, Chicago, every chance we've been able for the last 2 months. Needless to say, we've become closer than ever and have talked of things such as marriage, children, etc. I lost touch with her for a few years while she had a serious boyfriend of 3 years, he did not permit her to speak to me. That relationship has since ended with him but she still admits she is still in love with him, 3 months have passed since the breakup. Shes told me from the very beginning that she can not make a true commitment with me until she can honestly say she is not in love with him anymore. They havent seen each other in months but she will see him briefly next weekend, and has said he has aspirations to get back together. I feel very strongly about this girl and am thinking the best thing to do is to let her see where her heart lies and if its true, she will return. But on the contrary, how do I just sit back as my stomach eats itself away? Anyone been on either side of this situation?