Females and sex.

I hate that females can be happy having sex with a guy that doesn't even look good, just because he's a "nice guy". Oh give me a break! They will turn down a guy who is well built and goodlooking if favor of fucking the guy who is so "nice".


I hate how it seems females don't think the same about sex. How it is so much mental, rather than physical. Since coming to this realization, it kind of ruins sex for me, to think that what I look like doesn't matter, and we are not enjoying it on the same level.

Tell me, then just what is it that turns you females on to sex, and why do you even enjoy it, if it doesn't even matter what the guy looks like?

 

sex is incredibly intimate. some girls can separate the physical and emotional, but it's so much less fulfilling. and actually... looks do matter. If i'm not physically attracted to a guy, i'm not going to crave to see him naked. although, personality usually makes a guy look good, or bad: they go hand in hand.

 

I like your answer Tiger. Especially the part that says - "If i'm not physically attracted to a guy, i'm not going to crave to see him naked".

The whole post was good, and makes me feel better to know that there are females that think like you do.

I do however, know a foxy young female, who says looks DO matter, yet dated and enjoyed sex very much with an over weight guy. because she said loved him.

 

thanks

and love would play a HUGE part in it... like i said, personality and looks go hand in hand, so if you love somebody they're going to look beautiful and sexy no matter what... (generally speaking... it's very hard, for some at least, to totally separate a person's looks and their souls/personalities/whatever... so many times i have heard ppl say, yeah he's cute, but he's an ass... or even... yeah he may not look totally hot, but he's sooo nice...) i've said both.

but yeah, i still stand by what i said in my first post... this was just elaborate a little bit.

 

Thank you, Tiger, this was really getting me down, and was kind of depressing me. I guess I needed to here differently (from a female) than what I had been imagining.

 

can I play devil's advocate?

why are you so concerned with this?

It kinda seems like you feel looks is all you have to offer. Is that true?

 

sounds like your whining because some other guy has better social skills then you.

 

i was kind of wondering this same thing, honestly... hopefully this isn't the case, since i hate for ppl to think their personalities/insides suck. HOWEVER... if you feel you do need improvement for various reasons, it's good to acknowledge it and move forward...

 

I understand why you would ask that, and I guess my problem is, I spend a lot of time and energy to look good, and if it's all just a waste of time because females don't care, well I just would like to know.

Another reason is, it pisses me off if a female dosn't choose me over some one I obviously look better than. I take it as a deep insult.

To answer you more direct, I feel I am a total package, I am good looking, funny, kind and sensitive.

 

well then... you must realize that you're not that "perfect package" for EVERY girl... ppl have different tastes, ya know?

 

but do you have charm with the ladies?

 

Good point, Tigerlily. I guess I'm just looking at in in too basic of terms, thinking that if a person looks good, you should have sex
with them.

 

Some of the ones that I end up dating say so.

 

lol, yes not everybody thinks that way...

if you're are just looking for casual sex, it may work though.

 

i would just like to say, that this little womanly quirk you're bitching about is the sole reason i ever get any...

so shut up, please

 

Maybe so, but don't you understand, what I am saying? I am asking the females, why they enjoy sex if it's not going to be about looks. You should be just as curious.

 

^^lol, fair enough.

but, have you ever noticed that you and your friends can completely disagree on what's hot? i have a friend who loves italian chicks and all the curviness therein, i personally prefer chicks with fewer curves, etc. I have another buddy who is just as irish as i am, but has, for lack of a better term, "jungle fever." this extends to personalities too. I like a girl who is quiet, but smart. the friend who likes italians is into "life of the party" girls and so on.

and women, in their infinitely more complex ways of thinking, can probably go seven layers deeper than looks and general personality.

 

To me, the important thing is chemistry. I don't care what he looks like. What matters to me is how my body reacts, when I am in his presence... Some guys make me react and some don't.

Now, I can have the not-so-great chemistry with a guy and that's where looks and/or personality come in. If we don't have much chemistry, but he is decent looking and has a good personality (especially if he is funny), then there's a good chance that we can still get together.

 

Well said, Autumn!!! It's definitely all about chemistry!!!!

Looks DO matter, but they aren't the most important detail.... that would be cock size!! lol

Spidey, its great that you like to look good, I've certainly appreciated it recently!

 

OK.. WTF are you on about!! It's not looks that are important.... If you think that looks are more important than anything else, then you must be one big headed SoB!!