so...my boyfriend told me that he has feelings for his best friend...i don't know what to do. i don't want to leave him, i don't want to regret anything...i just, i don't know...i'm so lost. he obviously doesn't want to break up with me because he hasn't left yet and it's been a week...then again, i'm not complaining...i don't want him to leave. i just don't know what to do it fucking hurts, i already have enough insecurities as it is, i don't need this one. yet again, the worst shit possible always happens to me, so i wasn't really surprised when he told me. it just hurts. i don't want to be second best. i just don't know what to do...
but can you stay with him knowing he has feelings for someone else???.. and shes his friend, so do they like hang out and stuff???
i don't know if i can anymore...i thought i could...i thought i could try to forget this, but i don't know anymore...i don't want to leave him. well, we live in michigan and she lives in miami...they talk like almost everyday. when they don't talk for a while he starts to worry about her...but instead of talking to me about it he just thinks about things and shit, then he gets all distant and cold...like he doesn't even want me to be there. that happened like two to three weeks ago, i knew something was wrong, but i didn't know what it was...i thought i was doing something wrong, but then he finally told me last friday that that's what was bothering him. i don't want to leave him...i don't know what i'd do without him. btw, you are beautiful...just thought you should know. lolz.
you can't always choose who you have feelings for, and at least he told you which means he wants to be honest with you. if i were you, i would tell him that he needs to choose one or the other because your relationship will not last if he is divided over which girl he wants. tell him you need a three day break for him to think about what he wants. also, you said that she lives in miami...is this an internet friend?
yeah, they've known each other since he was 13, but he flew down there once and visited her, but that was before we met.
i know u really dont wanna leave him, but i think you should, he might even start realizing then that he had a good thing with you... or tell him to choose her or you. . and thank you your so sweet
First he doesn't want to sleep with you and now he's telling you he has feelings for some other girl. He's cold and distant toward you but talks to her almost everyday online. Relationships aren't supposed to make you unhappy; this relationship seems to be doing exactly that. You say you worry about regrets but I think it's a lot more likely that, 10 years from now, you'd look back with regret at having wasted your time with somebody that doesn't appreciate you than look back and think "oh, if only I'd suffered through it a little longer we'd still be together." Look, it's your life and you should live it how you think is best but if I were in your situation I'd be out the door. At the very least you should let him know that his behavior is unacceptable and if things don't change soon you're gone. You say you don't want to be second best. Good for you. Now don't be.
Umm, it sounds like the only reason he hasn't broken up with you yet is because he can't have HER. That...isn't healthy, or particularly loving. If I were you'd I'd get rid of him.
Sometimes the kindest, most loving gift you can give to a partner (and to yourself as well) is to end the relationship. He might thank you for it - and in the end you will look back and thank yourself too. Namaste, Musikero
I have to agree with others and say leave him. He will either realize what he had and come crawling back to you, or he will move on. Either way, you need that self respect to say NO, it needs to be 100% me or nothing. Be strong!!! It will pay off in the long run. You dont want to be with someone hwo doesnt put you first. And I have to say, at least he told you about his feelings. It hurts to hear but maybe he genuinely wants to move on from liking her??
You'd do just fine without him. You're a sweet, attractive, intelligent girl (I know this cause I've read your other posts ). Guys will find you. Trust me, they will. I know you would feel broken-hearted for a time and unfortunately you gotta go through that, but love heals all wounds. Spend time with your girlfriends. Date other guys. Go to the gym and work out. Keep busy and active ... do anything except sit home by the phone. This guy has been stringing you along for a while now. You deserve better. The time will come when you look back and think "god, I'm so glad I got out of that." You really and truly will. Good luck
