Fear of commitment

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I don't have fear of commitment; It gets me into trouble.

 

I fear commitment a bit. Not because I don't think I'm capable of it. I just don't have much faith in other people. Because of that I rarely get in relationships.

 

i had a hardcore fear of commitment. and then i fell in love. i didn't fear it anymore. so i committed. it fell apart. i feared commitment again.

then i fell in love again, and now i just have a new definition of commitment. to me it no longer means forever, or any kind of ownership. it means, actually, letting the person you love go. and trusting that if it's meant to be it will work, and if it's not, then it'll gently dissolve. it means committing to care about and love someone so deeply that you just want them to be who they are, and do what brings them abundant happiness and growth, regardless if that means they get/stay with you or not.

that's my new definition, and by that definition, i no longer have a fear of comittment. in fact, i commit to people every day. if there's no tying down, why not?

 

I gots the disease

I'm the opposite of Tree-Hugger.
Trust other people
Don't trust myself

I always feel like I'm gonna hurt 'em

 

Duuude... You're one smart lady

*steals new definition*

If it is indeed possible, this helped alot

 

I don't want any form of commitment. Thanks.
Don't wish to recieve it or give it.
I appreciate it is a joke, but look at the "will you marry me" thread.
People can say lots of things but within a short space of time be a different person.
I've had that in real life.
NO MORE thanks.

 

tis indeed possible. tis not at all easy. everything and everyone, every energy says that's not the way to be in a relationship, not the way to be with other people. gotta tie people down, gotta keep them under our grasp, gotta lock someone up before they get away.

it's fucking hard to make the decision to choose a different way of viewing love and relationships and commitments... and it's even harder to stay on track. but possible it is.

 

Sorry for backing out on the marriage thing

I feel partly responsible

 

Nagh, don't worry. It wasn't you
But, a symptom I have found is apparent sincerity that is actually a load of BS.
I don't need that in my life.
Fun. Sex. Friendship.
Commitment.

 

Yeah. Some people suck

 

They indeed do.
The fact you can't point these people out of a crowd does not help, either.

 

I right there. I feel the exact same way.

 

I wouldn't say that I fear commiting to another person. I just dont feel like it at this point.

 

Yeah, I dont do commitment.
I stay as far away as possible.
I have a commitment to my dogs and my family. no romantic commitments.
Ive been single for 8 years and dont plan on changing it. ever.

 

In a way I do fear commitment, I'm afraid I'm the only one committing, but at the same time I feel like I NEED the companionship...

 

I don't know what you're talking about.

 

I thought the title said "fear of condiments"...

Ahhh, Freedom Mustard!

 

I don't fear it, I just don't particularly like it.

Bit of a moot point at the moment anyways.

 

Nah. I'm cool with commitment. I just need the right girl.

Any other girls, I'll hook up with and dump like they've never been dumped before. I'm dumping a girl tonight. Hopefully I'll be dumping someone special again next week.