fantasy gone wrong....feel awful

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by zaras_star, Jan 4, 2005.

  1. zaras_star

    zaras_star Member

    does anyone have fantasies of being with their opposition? lately, i've been attracted to boys who are my ideological opposites. i'm not sure whether i have this attraction because i know it's unattainable or if it's a way to feel powerful or something. i really don't know. but last night, i went to the bar with a couple of friends, one of which is an intelligent boy i have been attracted to since my senior year of high school. so....he asks if he can kiss me. and i say yes. and it continues outside the bar. and he's telling me that he's doing it because i'm special, but he says "you're not the girl for me" over and over. and i asked what he was talking about and he starts talking about our opposing beliefs. it's all wrong. he's republican, evangelistic, etc. etc. and i'm spiritual. and not republican. and i tell him that it doesn't matter. that it's an experience. i certainly wasn't taking it seriously. but i feel so awful today. so terrible.
  2. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

    your fantasy was to make it with a republican and your upset it didn't pan out......
  3. MeatWagon499

    MeatWagon499 Senior Member

    That sucks, im sorry :(

    I kinda have that feeling of where I'm attracted to ppl who are nothing like me and have gone out with a few preppie girls but it just doesnt work. Find someone who likes doin the same stuff as you, who cares about the beleifs.
  4. zaras_star

    zaras_star Member

    people are people. mostly.
  5. dhs

    dhs Senior Member

    See, I don't necesarily have a type - I don't pigeon hole where my love life should go -I just let it take me where it goes for good or bad. From what I read, you sound like you have a similar take on things.

    However, it sounds to me like this boy doesn't view things quite the same as you and maybe he's actually doing the right thing - being cool about it all. He probably digs you, wouldn't mind getting with you, but respects you and he sees things that are tell tale signs for him that it wouldn't work out for you two beyond an affair.

    To me (if that is the case) is very respectful and nothing to feel awful about.
  6. lynsey

    lynsey Banned

    if he's so religous why would he want to just hook up with you anyway? I dated a guy over the summer who went to the catholic school down here and was way republican I never thought anything of it untill he told me that he was a virgin and was saving himself for marriage. I was like dude I respect that and am not planning on sleeping with you soon but it made me feel so uncomftrable that it couldn't work out.
    Things happen for a reason and maybe the reason is to save you heartache over having a one night stand and it not going anywhere.

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