Since my good friend Samhain suggested that I post this, I will. I have been married happily for 13 years. I often have fantasies that involve multiple partners, some of which involve women. I am not sure that I would ever want to physically make them happen, but I feel that I have to acknowledge that they exist. I know this makes me bi-curious, although I really don't know that I want to make it happen. Just creating this post to talk about fantasies you guys may have had, and what they meant to you as far as finding yourself sexually. Also, married men, any of you have similar things going on in your own heads, and what would you think if you wife confessed that she had these types of fantasies to you?
its cool...not that unusual....Im fortunate in that I married my best friend...and he knew going in that I like girls...we been together 26 years....and he has been friends with most of my girlfriends . I LIVE my fantasies.
Ok two things, its fine to have fantasys, however through a process with yourself and your partner you have too diecide wether you would like this to happen, is it only dreaming? or is it that you are repressing a side of your sexuality. and what are the boundries of your relationship, if you diecided t o make a closed relationship open it would be a huge deal, that would require much discussion (not least about boundries) with your partner. on a practicle level have you explored watching porn with H? S
Oh yeah, we've done the pron thing, and I think it is very much a turn on and all, but I just am not feeling like I am needing to physically be with a woman. I don't feel I am repressing feelings or anything. Purely on a sexual level I am turned on, but I don't feel a romantic love for women. From a purely sexual standpoint I am curious, but at the same time I feel like the curiosity is not great enough to risk what could form a wedge emotionally despite having complete support in fulfilling the fantasies. I just don't think it would be a good idea for me at this time. Know what I mean?
it sounds like you've thought it through well, just keep discussing it, sexuality isn't set in stone S
oh and if you do flirt outside of your marriage make sure you are very clear to them how far you are willing to go S
I agree and who knows what I will feel a year from now? I am just thankful to be in a relationship with someone who thinks like I do, and who is so understanding about it. I know IF I feel I need to experience this at some point I could do so without hurting his feelings.
well i'm left with a glimmer of hope then! anyway, didn't you want people to discuss their fantasies on here? S
Jesus new fantasy: Samhain and Mrs. H's hubby :X But, on your thing about sexual connection but not necessarily dating a woman, that's pretty much how I feel. Now, I won't know til I try for sure, but I just don't feel any urge to -date- a woman, yet I'd love to make out with one because women are so damn beautiful.
well I think for research purposes alone, H and I should consider this, however I do feel a long weekend in a hotel should come as part of the deal S
