I'm fascinated with the subject of how fantasy plays out in our actual sex lives. There was a thread recently in which the poster asked about fantasies, and there are some really great answers. What I want to know is, how much do you talk about these with your lover? I'm specifically interested in how much we act out these fantasies with a lover, which requires trust, and candor on your part when you tell them. That takes courage. I think there are people who just don't know what they want... and these people will probably go unsatisfied quite a lot. There are people who can't express what they want or won't express it. But how many of us do? Do you tell your man your fantasy (or your woman, if you're a guy)? How open is he/she to acting it out? Have you been in relationships where you felt unfulfilled because you didn't express your fantasies/desires, or where your partner was just not open to hearing them? If you do act out fantasies with a lover, how does it feel when you're doing it? Do you often feel dissapointed? Or totally turned on and into it? Thank you in advance! This forum rocks.
never ever had to discus fantasies with a lover if a fantasy became reality as so many have, its always just happened organicaly talking about then acting out a fantasy is just acting and ruins alot of the spontanouisness of fantasy when a fantasy comes true naturaly however its very exciting and nope, never once been disapointed but i've never followed a sex script..or tried to act out any scenarios whatever happens happens and fantasy can be so widely varied that almost any situation can be a fantasy come true
Oh no...I meant we were talking during....and our conversation happened to inspire further events.......haha..No script !!!
guess i like sirprises lets try this..... never is quite as hot a suddenly realizing your in the midst of something unique take the 3some fantasy..how hot can it be when u advertise me and my girl want totry... and go about planning this whole scenario to me its alot hotter if we just ended up in a situation..and suddenly it just hits us..wow..theres an extra body in bed tonight..this is new..wow.. the unexpected surprises ..the hottest fantasy is 1 you'd never expect to come true..forcing it to be real seems like fake tome..but just having the completely unexpected suddenly become real..just the wow factor is overwhelmingly hot
I've never talked out my fantasies with any of my lovers... I've suggested things to try (ie a little light bondage), talked about things I like and dislike, but never a true, fully fledged out fantasy. *shrugs* I've only had one long-term type boyfriend though and we were each others firsts for so much that we spent a lot of our time just exploring each others bodies.
I think that sharing your fantasies is a great thing, but you have to be careful which ones you share because they can hurt your partners feelings. I told my boyfriend that I want to try anal and bondage and we have had a very pleasureable relationship
Fantasy is very powerful, because basically it's sex taking place in the brain, and the brain is really the only sexual organ we have... everything else is just sending the signals. If you can stimulate the brain, everything else can be wonderful with far less problem. And I try not to "script" a fantasy, though I have played out a scenario which someone said they thought was especially hot. There's nothing wrong with that so long as it doesn't become all there is of the relationship. Talking over fantasies is healthy and can be hot as hell! When you mention, "Gee, you know, I've always been curious about (whatever)..." and your partner goes, "God, yes! That's always sounded so intense" or whatever positive response they give... that can get the action going incredibly. One other thing... if a person can share their fantasies with their partner, it makes them that much less likely to be tempted to fulfill them outside the relationship.
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