TLDR: I found a work colleague on Grindr. What should I have done? I was on the road for work. Once I got settled in my hotel, I launched Grindr to find someone to play with. Wouldn't you know, I see one of my work colleagues picture (the same one he uses on LinkedIn). We are in town for the same assignment and are staying in the same hotel (how convenient). He advertises himself as a BWC in an open relationship (he had me at BWC). I had always suspected that he was gay, but he never told me point blank. In my horned up mood, I seriously considered reaching out to him (eventhough, I'm a married and closeted bi guy). The fear of the "unknowns" prevented me from reaching out and I never mentioned it to him. Has anyone stumbled across a friend/acquaintance on a "hook-up" site? Any recommendations?
I never have, but, a part of me would love to recognize somebody. Especially at my age of 73. I feel sure a lot of my friends feel the same as I do and would be willing to play, if they would drop the façade of straight or macho. But, I can't say much, I'm the same way around them. Just never knowing...
It happened to me. The guy that responded to my ad was, the owners son of a very large equipment dealer I worked for. There was always a rumor that he had a gay son. Needles to say I just couldn’t do it. Hindsight he’s now VP of the company.
Yup. I have seen people I know on Grindr. Neither of us said a word. On another note, one time my wife and I had gone to a local gay bar, and that gay bar had a room upstairs that sold stuff (toys, novelties, etc). I had gone to the bathroom, and my wife was at a table with two guys chatting it up when I came back. She started kissing and making out with a guy, and the other guy bought me a drink. Very sexy guy, younger than me. He started touching me and soon we started kissing and making out. Apparently he had asked my wife about me and she told him I was very bi, available, and a total bottom. This guy invited us all upstairs to that store and he asked the old guy behind the counter for a key to the "dressing room". We go to this door, all of us, and the guy my wife was with hoisted her up on a platform and started eating out her pussy. My guy pulls his hard cock out and tells me to suck it. I got down on my knees and started sucking this hard dick. I look over and my wife is getting her pussy eaten out and has her titts out, and she's watching me on my knees sucking this nice big dick. After a few mins, this guy pulls me off his dick and pulls me up. Starts kissing me and pulls my pants down. He bent me over this wooden table thing and, no shit, has lube, lubes his cock up and starts fucking me. I look over and my wife is also getting fucked. Her guy apparently had a pierced cock, and she had never been fucked by a guy with one before. My guy pounded my ass real good and eventually came in me. My wife came soon , as well and her guy shat a big load in her. We all went back downstairs and had some more drinks. wife and I eventually left, caught an Uber home, and she was so turned on she wanted me to fuck her. So, fast-forward several months, and her and I were shopping at a Walmart and the guy that fucked me was there. Walked up and started chatting it up. Then a few months later, my female roommate went with us to this gay bar. We went upstairs to the dance floor. Guy that fucked me was there again. Him and I started making out again. He was HOT. Probably about 10+ yrs younger than me..My roommate was shocked. She said she knew I was bi, but had never seen it. Anyhow, he took me back and fucked me again, this time by himself. I got that hot cock TWICE! LOL. I've seen him on Grindr and Growlr but have never said a word.
Yes. I would not make contact or ever mention it to anyone. Some things should stay private. (I do not send or post face pics for this reason) If I ever met someone and we knew each other, might as well have fun. Not like they would want to say anything either. Enjoy the moment and maybe more in the future.
Not grindr, but I had my uncle respond to my doublelist ad lol. He didn't know it was me and I didn't respond after I figured out it was him. Could've been real awkward
You should message him! I don't understand why you haven't when your wife knows, approves and participates? What am I missing as to the reason you haven't reached out?
It was several years ago. Just never initiated contact. Perhaps your rights, but haven't seen him on there for a long time. I got a feeling from our encounters that he wanted me for himself only, and while the sex was great, he wasn't thrilled I was with a woman. So I left it at that.
