Falling In Love With Fwb

I fell in love with my fwb. We have been friends for 4 years. I have loved her from afar for over a year now so when the sex started I fell hard. We have the best sex ever but more than that we have a very intimate relationship and are best friends. The problem is that she says does not feel the same way. She tells me she loves me but is not in love with me. I don't want this to end but am afraid I am pushing her away. Suggestions please.

 

i suggest not starting fwb relationships with people you're in love with.

 

Thanks for stating the obvious.

 

I guess you have 2 options at this point: You either stop FWB and just continue the friendship, or you continue the benefits and limit the time you are with her plus add more hobbies, etc. and maybe even another woman in your life. I am sorry if this is not helpful ;(

 

I think you are right WW.

 

FWB is dream relationship for me! Most women don’t seem to go for it!

 

Wait for Barry's response.

 

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But the women who do, love it as there is no problems.

 

Two of my wife's fwb's fell in love with her, and she had to end the relationships.

 

I meant the other Barry lol

 

I knew not to from the get go. She was married so I knew what the deal was.

 

True!

 

I have a FWB that I have had over 30 years and his wife knows and my husband knows and we are All Good friends! I Love my husband and my FWB

 

We have on like that too. It's a good arrangement. Sometimes a little complicated but it's good.

 

We All get what we want and need, Bill doesn't bother his wife about sex and I keep him Happy and he keeps me Well Used and hubby gets off watching!

 

I suggest you ride the wave, and delight in your blessings. A lover who loves you but isn't "in love" with you is a wonderful thing; a relationship to be cultivated and cherished as long as it lasts (nothing does, you know). Accept it for the blessing it is, just as it is, and stop fretting over the ways you wish it was. Life's far too short.

 

True!

 

Do your husband ever gets with his wife sexually!

 

First things first, you need to respect her feelings and accept that she doesn't see you in a romantic way. Continuing to push her or pressure her into something she's not comfortable with will only push her away. My suggestion would be to take a step back and reassess the situation. Can you handle continuing the FWB relationship without expecting more? If not, it might be time to have an honest conversation with her about what you both want moving forward.

 

Great reply Jennifer! Welcome to HF!!