Facebook friend requests from annoying people at work

I have some Facebook friends from work whom I later found out to be assholes. In fact, it's a whole crew within the personnel, and it's no wonder they love each other.

Some I just put on my no notifications/chat list but keep as friends until I get another job. Others I couldn't even be assed to wait until I quit.

It's been a while since I got a friend request from anyone at the job, but yesterday I got one from this chick. We're literally oil and vinegar. She has the most nagging, annoying views, but she's a social butterfly and it probably doesn't cross her mind not to send me a friend request even though she works with me. Especially since I am civil and joke around at work even with people that I have a low opinion of.

But I also think I make it pretty clear who I'm interested in having a personal relationship with and who I don't. It's not brain surgery.

I'm torn on this one. I don't want to cause awkwardness neither do I want to be fake. And yes, she's the gossiping to trip you at work type.

Experiences? Thoughts other than get another job (I'm on it)?

 

Don't use facebook?

 

It's the way I keep in touch with many friends across the world not to mention it helps me with work, entertainment, and news articles. There are also some interest groups that are close to my heart that I'm a part of on Facebook.

But, sometimes I weigh that option.

 

I don't use Wastebook on principle. Can't you select the level at which someone can see all your shit ie block them from seeing stuff?

Linkedin is even worse. You connect with someone, then get to see all their address book. AND all their friends address books. Strangely, I can't see the address books of everyone at the NSA, Zuckerberg or all those clowns...

 

Thats option no 1

No 2, set your freinds list and stories so no one else can see it





no 3 - have two accounts. 1 for family and work collegues, ie everyone you hate, and another account for anyone you want to see naked

 

Don't accept the request, but don't deny it either. Just let it sit in limbo. If she brings it up, just tell her that you didn't notice a new one.

 

I love it. I get to hear their problems, see thousands of their baby pictures and then fake laugh to their stupid jokes and old, old funny sayings all day at work, then do it all over again when I check my facebook.

Actually I have learned recently to bypass my main page and go straight to my private messages.

 

This is why I don't have Facebook. It's moronic and full of self-important attention whores.

 

1. Don't answer it.
2. Tell her you don't mix work with pleasure do you don't accept work "friends"
3. Block her then tell her you got rid of your fb.
4. What I would do...Deny it. Don't accept it. I have no problem doing that.

My step sister got mad and "unfriended" the whole family. A few months later she tried to add me again. I denied it. A year later she tried again, I denied it again and this is my own sister. I see her and have to talk to her because she's family. I dont fuckin care. I don't have to be her "friend"

 

For me, it's the most convenient way to stay in touch with people I met all over the world, to arrange meet-ups and more such things

Yes, there are lots of moronic attention whores and I just block them. I just keep people I genuinely want to talk to/meet.

 

I'm far from being so jaded and enlightened badass to be above a Facebook embarrassment.

Wow! That's a reply and thank you for that!

Unfortunately, I don't have the business is business, personal is personal alibi with her since I've added her work bff a long long time ago. Still, I might follow your lead.

 

My wife uses your number 2 suggestion. She is in human resources. She actually sent an email company wide the she would not be accepting friend requests from people in the company to prevent chances of any conflicts of interest.

 

I think people generally take facebook way too seriously. If someone is on my facebook, it doesn't necessarily mean we're friends in real life. It means they sent me a request and I really have no reason to deny the request unless I don't know them. I have no reason to deny a request because facebook isn't that serious. You can always block their posts if they're annoying.

 

So glad I never have to spend a thought about this. I agree about people taking it too seriously though. I compare it to the I don't watch TV thread: some take the idea of programmed broadcasting and that it might influence them to the extend of them calling it brainwashing... while no one expects you to watch tv all day anyway. All it takes is some discipline and common sense and there is nothing wrong with tv, in fact you might even gain some insight in something. But while this may also count for facebook I choose to stay away from this social medium.

 

^this...no 3

 

I never mix work with personal life. I've had friend request come in from people at work and I simply tell them that. However I do direct them to my linkedin account where it's all about business.

 

I just pictured Rat's mind exploding because you presented a concept that isn't black or white.

 

And Cherea, I've had this dilemma. Not really sure what to say the best course of action is but I usually accept if it's someone I have to work with simply based on the fact I hate drama and passive aggressiveness. Which is what will happen 9 out of 10 times if you 'deny' a coworker.

 

Or just freaking delete them. Jeez its just Facebook.

Here is your problem, you think being Facebook friends actually symbolizes a friendship.

 

I say it like it is.


"I don't want to be Facebook friends with you. I keep my home life / personal life separate from work. And what biznatch?"


Ok.