extra, extra!: BOYFRIEND NOT HIPPIE!- HELP!!!!

To quote the Beatles, "Help! I really need somebody,..." my 19-yr-old fiance is not a hippie, in fact, he is completely opposite of hippy. He is into cars and street racing, (think "Fast and the Furious.") I am a total hippy, I even had dreads for a while. I am a vegan and a barefooter. He is completely okay with my lifestyle, but I want him to get into it, too. He needs to be passionate about things. I know it is hard to change a person, but I want him to be able ton respect all hippies and the way of life. He doesn't like drugs, so the herb is out of question, (he did smoke with me once, though!)

What can I do to help him take intrest in the hippie lifestyle??

 

3 billion guys in the world... if you have any concerns with the one you're with, move on.

 

They always say women expect men to change and men expect women to never change but as they also say... expect the unexpected.

Who exactly are they?

 

umm, you cant make him be something he isnt or doesnt want to be.

maybe

 

You're kidding me, right? Shit, you're not his mother, let him be the way he wants. Maybe he just doesn't want to fit into the stereotype that you have. If we were all the same the world would be a dull place. If you're looking for a twin, it's time you looked elsewhere. If you try and change him he will resent you forever, so just accept him the way he is. You say he respects your lifestyle, so why don't you respect his?

 

I agree with Strawberry Fields.
Why try to change him, if you love him just the way he is?
You guys are pretty young to be engaged don't ya think?

 

If hes your fiance you should love him for who he is now.

 

Not to be negative, but your 16 dating a 19 year old, you're engaged and have concerns about him not being a hippie?

To quote Vince Vaughn from Old School - Way to work it through

 

ummmm....do you love him the way he is? Or would you love him more if he changed a little to fit your idea of what it means to be a "hippie"? If the latter is true, then you might want to step back and take a look a yourself. If you are just concerned that you might not have enough things in common to make it work....than that might tell you something as well. Either way, you certainly wont be able to change him to fit your mold...and why would you want to? If you have already agreed to marry the guy...then surely you love him just the way he is. Hmmmm? I wish you well with everything though

 

Yes, that is true... - that if you are engaged to him (wtf) and you don't love him for who he is, what's the whole point? I mean.. come on... (you know... I can't stand those street racer types)

 

I guess it was a bad idea to ask the young hippies and I wouldn't have if I knew you were going to be negative. Please don't. I clearly remember saying I don't want him to be one I just want him to respect a different lifestyle.

 

if theres one thing you should learn about us guys,
we will NEVER EVER change. i would think you would know that.
if he didint already respect hippys he wouldint be about to marry one.
you moron. if he loves you, you should be damn happy with him as it is.

 

,........like I said he doesn't know how to be passionate about something. I support him in everything he does, I just need a vice versa here. What I was really hoping for was perhaps an idea for an event that he might enjoy or something that we could do to put the sterotypical idea of a hippy behind. Like I said he thinks hippies are all peace and lovey dovey. I fund raise for an organization called Heiffers International to give tree saplings to needy families and am currently envolved in working with older people in my community to change the perspective on the war in Iraq. As you can see, my idea of a hippy is helping the world in small ways to make a BIG difference! I just want him to understand. I wish he could and that is all I ask. For advice on getting him to see why I care. *sigh* never thought this would be a qyestion of my relationship with him.......

 

please, don't call me names.

 

first off, this is not his problem. its yours. you have a need to be understood,
and you dont think he understands you. well, i suggest you get over your self and do your thing. if you too are in love stuff like this shouldint matter.

of course you could just go on dr phil.

 

forget it.

 

well i cant help it if you think you can change people.


and arnt you 16? why the hell are calling him your fiance?(sp)
weird.....

 

Ugh, lighten up on her Jimmy, she never asked for you to harass her. I don't know, some people are just like that and they can't respect things that they don't understand and you can leave that up to them to do, but I know where you're getting at. The fact that it doesn't necessarily make them bad people if they can't accept or understand something they don't understand... but... if he doesn't have the capability of understanding, I really don't think there is much you can do unless his own curiousity plays the role and he does it himself. I don't consider myself a hippy... but I am a vegan and a lot of people, unless they are vegans themselves, can't understand or accept that. But all I can say is have a happy life.

~ George

 

well sed george.

 

it sounds he is passionate about street racing, isnt he? also if he is not saying bad things about your hippy lifestyle, he is supporting you. many guys dont compliment their gurlfriends on things that they do, they arent trying to be mean they are just scared to say something like that. but if hes your fiance then just love him for who he is and dont try to change him