Drive me nuts! My boyfriend's ex is driving me mad. She keeps sending me messages and I told her nicely that I'd appreciate if she'd not message me because my relationship with Adam has nothing to do with her, just like her past relationship with Adam has nothing to do with me. She's screwed him out of money and cheated on him and now she's harrassing me... He told her to stop emailing me and she still isn't. Why do ex's do this? I mean, I have never tried to get involved with any of my ex's new relationships, it's their business what they do, after all. Even ones who have been abusive, I've never warned their new mates...because it's not my business (people do change, every once in awhile). It's like she's trying to break us up. It's absolutely ridiculous, especially when she claims she is in love with someone else now. Anyone else have any experiences with this?
I had an ex (my boyfriend's ex) break into our house and try to stab me with a kitchen knife. when she found out we were getting married she went crazy. ironically she actually ended up cutting her wrists by accident on the broken glass and my boyfriend had to rush her to the hospital. im not married to that guy now and i broke up with him shortly after that so it never was much of a problem since that day,but before that she would stalk us and drive by our house and shit. i've had run ins with boyfriends ex's and have felt the "Evil Eye" but that's about it. why dont you change your email addy? she is harrassing you.........
Well, I blocked her...but...that's not really the point. I mean, our paths will eventually cross (we've already seen her at a restaurant, but we hid before she could see us) and who knows what she's going to do. the story you told, makes it even scarier!
Not really. I haven't seen or heard from any of my exes in years. Once I'm done I'm done. And Jer's ex hasn't physically been involved in our relationship, but what she did to him made it difficult in the beginning for me to "prove my love", etc to him. He was hurt so he constantly compared me to her. He got over that though once he realized that I am nothing like her and never will be (she went to a nut hut). He doesn't care to know anything about her; I've asked him if he is curious and he says no.
DancerAnnie- This behaviour you are talking about is immature. Are you scared she might hurt you? She seems imbalanced. If you are scared she'll hurt yu then you might want to get police involved/get a restraining order against her. You shouldn't HAVE to block your email, etc. Maybe you should just send her an email- (name) Please stop contacting me. I have asked you repeatedly to leave me alone. Your relationship with (guy) is over. I am sorry you haven't realized it yet and are too immature and unstable to leave us alone. I wish you the best happiness with your future relationships but please respect us enough to not constantly harrass us.
Yes, it is immature. The first message she sent me was saying "I'm 27 years old and I don't play games." But this sure seems like a big game to me. The first message I sent her was: "I'm not trying to be mean, but my relationship with Adam has nothing to do with you, just like your past relationship with him has nothing to do with me. So I would appreciate it if you would please not message me anymore. Thank you." Then she proceeded to message me back...and I said the same thing...ending with "please do not respond to this message" and she still sent me messages after saying repeatedly to not message me back. She even says "Someday you will have to face me as a person and not the ghost of Adam's past" Yeah OK... Do I think she'll hurt me? I don't know her, I've never met her, but I would say, probably not. She just slips in these things like "I wouldn't trust Adam for as far as I can throw him" and just little things like that that seem to be saying that I shouldn't either. Adam has been nothing but kind and generous and honest and true to me...so I am not worried about him leaving me...but this ex thing has got me all riled up.
27-WAY too old for that shit "ghost of Adam's past?". Give me a break. Sounds like a drama queen with a splash of nutjob.
My ex, ex's ex if that makes any sense to you all, was about as crazy as they got. He kicked down the door of her house while we were basking in the afterglow and through me into a wall, all I was wearing was my underwear. Mind you I'm 5'8 180 and this guy was 6'3 240 and built like a body builder and had a mean streak. There was nothing I could do at all about the situation. We both talked him down and he left. Then he came back a half hour later and threatened to kill both of us unless we left (he used to live there but she kicked him out a month prior). After we left he took her bed into the backyard and set it on fire. I dated this girl for four months after that and treated her like a queen - took her to Europe, never once raised my voice at her, rented her and her son their own place, along with numerous romantic get aways etc. Did everything in the world and..... ....she ended up going back to her bed burning life threatening ex once it became whitewater kayaking season because she loved and missed doing that with him and I wasn't all that into kayaking Class IV rapids with her because I had never done the sport. to be honest, I think that experience probably played into why I was not the nicest guy in my last relationship. I played all my cards right with this girl and she left me, so I was highly protective of myself in the following relationship and rather selfish at times. People whom I've dated have for sure had some off the wall ex's, but this guy took the crown. I mean who takes the bed of an ex girlfriend out of her house and burns it in the backyard when they find out that they've been sleeping with someone new in it? crazy
HOLY SHIT! Annie, I am also dating an Adam with a psycho ex! WTF??? Your story sounds a lot like mine. She kept IMing me and being stupid with insults like "u have a big nosie" and other horribly mispelled messages. I blocked her. When she calls Adam, I answer and tell her that they are over, Adam doesn't want to talk to her ever, and stop calling. If she stops by, I will call the police for trespassing. She hasn't called back in a couple monthes so I'm waiting for another call at 3 am. She lives in North Carolina and we are in Indiana so that helps ALOT!! But about a week ago, her stupid teen hood rat friends tried to hit Adam and I with A CAR!! Pyscho bitches... Hopefully you won't see the ex while she's driving! peace and love
The difference is...my Adam still wants to be friends with her (not like friends that hang out, but civil if they ever see eachother)... Just shows how nice and forgiving he is...and then she takes advantage of it by taking it a little too far.
I've got a great relationship with both my ex's, and my current girlfriend does also... Never had any weird or scary stuff happen... I'm glad. And I hope i never do
I've never had that thank god. I'm pretty picky about who I date though a guy has to not have had a girl for months and months before I'l date them. It's the smart thing to do. I do the same for others I care about too. I could have progressed the relationship I am in a lot sooner than in two weeks but I really like him and care for him so I needed to make sure shit was 100 percent done and over and all bridges were burned with everyone I was seeing and that i was 100 percent over everything and would not be so afraid of getting hurt that i would hurt him but now I thinkt hat was a mistake because he really understands my moods and knows exactly why I act why I do sometimes. I think we're way alike it's kinda freaky and he pushes me to do stuff that's good for me, which I like even though I pretend that I don't because I'm a lazy ass. But yeah I wish I would have let things happen sooner. I am glad he was patient. i'm a lucky girl SO I think making sure both people haven't dated for awhile is a really healthy way to avoid that as unresolved feelings hurt and cause shitty future relationships.
Yeah making sure you are not coming straight out of a relationship is good. My boyfriend was done with his ex for over a year though, and she still caused problems in the beginning of our relationship. Not personally, but the problems from the past (she had made threats against him, got some people to turn on him, got the school and police involved, etc before going to the looney bin). So even after more than a year her psycho problems got in the middle of us. Good thing I'm patient and understanding. We're still together 5 years later.
Adam's marriage was over at least three to six monthes before we met. She has serious issues... peace and love
Hm. I'm not advocating the "psycho ex syndrome" but has it ever crossed the minds of you lovely ladies that there may be some truth and reason for their behaviours? Admittedly after a bad break up, I too run through all these things I'd do if I could (but would never ever do). It seems like part of the process. If I can think it, what's to stop others from doing it? And if others do it, what is it about their exs that caused them to push them to status of "psycho nutcase"?? Perhaps you're all saintly and have never felt the urge to do something drastic? I would be more cautious around a present partner who has psycho exs trailing after him.
Getting into others' business is foolish and selfish. Like I stated in my post, I don't get involved in my exs business...for a reason. Everyone learns lessons and changes sometimes because of relationships. If they were one way with me, it doesn't mean they are the same way with others. I don't think anyone is claiming sainthood...we're just talking about ex's here...LOL
