So its my exgirlfriends birthday, she was a friend of 5 years before we were together, we then had a great relationship for about 8 months or so, she dumped me unexpectedly 3 months ago, tried to stay friends, hasnt worked out the best,(when we do hang out its a toss up of being great, and reminds me of what we had, or akward, at least for me) So its her birthday, and in my circle of friends we always make each other presents for special occasions, so I was going to frame a picture of when she lived in Vermont and I used to trek up there to see her, since she moved back to Jersey I thought ths might be nice, but maybe Im still thinking in boyfriend mode or something. Its kinda big (13x19), I have been working on it a while (which is normal, I am a photgrapher), its a panorama I stitched together in photoshop. Is this appropriate? Sentimental drivel? Awkward? Should I just not even go to the party and shoot up instead(jkn)? I figured I would ask some of the ladies their perspective. btw of course I am an idiot and still love her. But I am done trying to get her back, its just not there.
Dude, I think it sounds very hard core about the present that you have got her, which is lovely and very special in other circumstances. The reason why I am saying this is that I was mega used by a boy a long time ago and we tried to be friends and I went to his parties, etc etc, and it just made me feel awful sometimes and sometimes I was right. The only way I got to let him know that I couldn't be who he wanted me to be was to say goodbye. Now I am not saying that this is what you should do, but perhaps think about yourself as number one, and if your happiness comes up trumps rather than being mates with her..... you know what to do. Sounds like you really still like her, when is the party?
I'm taking it you were you invited to the party? I see nothing wrong with giving her a present if she's not going to take it the wrong way, but it seems to me your real question is should you just be moving on and having nothing to do with her... that's a completely different issue, dependent upon how you feel about it.
Yea I do still really like her, but I understand that she has lost that feeling for me, as for the present, I know its good one, because I know she misses Vermont alot, I guess ill just print it up and not buy a cheapy frame for it. Im torn between wanting to be around and just never seeing her again, Its a rough choice because she still wants to be friends (of course) but I want more, I have not seen her in at least 2 weeks. So far the not seeing her thing is how its going to go. Also as far as being happy, Im unhappy whether I see her or not. The party is tommorow, Sat night. Alot of my friends will be going so at least I will see them. Its probably going to rain anyway. Ho hum. Haha.
the picture is beautiful.. give it to her. she'll love it I think. and if she understands u as well as I think she does she'll know what it means but it also means that if she really no longer sees u in the same light u see her, u'll have to respect her decisions. losing love is painful but better to have at least loved.
Dude, I've gone thrtough exactly the same thing. Anyway, I still really like the girl, and we're close friends, but she wasn't on the same wavelength in our relationship. Our friendship is usually good, but it goes through the awkward crap as well. Anyway, I think the picture idea is cool because its personal, and you should give it to her as a friend. What I ended up doing was taking my ex gf out to a nice dinner before the party. I think it was a great summation of our relationship both as friends and lovers because she went away for a year right afterwards. Anyway, I went to the her party for a bit just to say hi, but left pretty early. Keep in mind its her big day and she's gonna want to have fun(which might mean other guys). IF you're like me, this is hard to watch, but I didn't want to ruin her night. It sounds liek you are close friends and want to get along, so I would say make something meaningful and do something special, but don't have any expectations. PEace
