Everyone's so excited to be downtrodden.

I'm getting pissed that every time anything gets planned, it falls completely apart because of completely stupid shit. It's always something about someone else did something and needs something else. And it always is a recent development that supersedes our preexisting plans. I just go on trips alone now. It always involves some invalid relative who needs rides to the clinic or resource facility or hospital. I love watching people get offended and mad when i suggest they ride the bus. That makes it so easy to not pretend to be sympathetic to whatever their self-made situation is, when they can't be bothered to help themselves by riding a bus.

another one of my favorites is when its "my ex needs....." I automatically know everything out of their mouth is always bullshit.. Your ex doesn't need a damn thing from you or they aren't your ex.. If there's kids involved, then the KIDS NEED shit from you, the ex can fuck off.. Like why are people like this?

 

Compassion.

 

Why have you let negativity eat your life away. If we met and a conversation started, I would not know how to continue. Problems can be resolved but a negative attitude can't.
You mentioned an ex, what happened there. Did you just drain all the life out of her, constantly leaving her feeling low and worthless. It can happen very easily and it never feels as if it is your fault.
Princess left a comment, which Scratcho agreed with. Scratcho has had a long and happy life with all it's ups and downs. Despite all these he is still positive and a joy to chat to.
Our life feels as if it is falling apart at the moment, since our daughter has moved to Ireland and taken the twins with her. Jane has taken it very badly, but we will get through it,

Take a look at my comment that posts on all my messages and give it some serious thought.
Take care.
Wills.

 

Thank you for the mention my friend.

 

I was mad and hangry when I posted this.. although I stand by it still, I was just venting... I wasn't talking about MY ex, i've been with my wife for 17 years. My friends have exes who are still all up in the mix. it's obnoxious.

 

If your wife is prioritizing the needs of her ex over spending time with you, I think you have something legitimate to complain about. If she's helping an invalid relative, that might be a legitimate excuse, depending on the circumstances, but if its gotten to the point where you're taking planned trips alone, it's certainly a problem, and your wife could be using excuses to avoid spending time with you.

I've heard of two couples counseling phone apps being recommended. One is called "lasting" (recommended on the basis of that person's personal experience) and another called "paired" (the person recommended it because they read a favorable review of it). It might be worth a try if you keep finding yourself having this kind of conflict with your wife.

You haven't been married to her for 17 years though, because I only joined this site in 2010, and I remember when you posted about your marriage and honeymoon.