Ever have bad experience with male friends when you come out?

Discussion in 'Lesbian' started by la Principessa, Aug 12, 2018.

  1. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    I know I did. I never realized how many of my male friends only talked to me because they wanted to sleep with me until I started dating a woman. They all slowly disappeared. One even had the balls to call me out like I owed him something for being around. And then he ignores me like a child, as if I had actually done something wrong.

    The only one who didn't I still talk to now and we talk about girls together lmao it's nice when some men aren't complete chauvinists.
     
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  2. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    In high school yes, I know exactly what you mean, they get a bit weird, almost possessive of you when they don't own you or anything. Just some people. A lot of other people thought it was cool. Some guys get jealous. I don't have that problem now though I'm 31.
     
  3. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    That when you know who your true friends are better you know now then later but I’m happy for you for being your self
     
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  4. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Well that makes it even worse. I was a grown adult when I came out and had grown adult men throw tantrums because they think I promised myself to them because I enjoyed talking to them.

    Of course there are also the ones who are like...that's hot, tell me...do you and your girlfriend scissor? They're usually just being immature but I find it offensive that most straight men fetishize lesbians so much. I'm not entertainment!
     
  5. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Thank you :)
     
  6. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    It a men thing to think two women are hot that all a lot of men grow up to the thought of two women having sex is hot
     
  7. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    Men just don’t know how to process it I guess if they want to know what it like tell them to go watch a porno or something to stop asking you
     
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  8. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    I don't care if they think it's hot. But they should keep it to themselves when they're at home watching porn. What's unacceptable to me is when they think it's okay to ask sexually invasive questions. There's literally only one person I'll talk to about my sex life in depth. It's no one else's business unless I choose to disclose.
     
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  9. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    If a straight man wants to know what lesbian sex really is, the last thing he should do is watch porn. For fantasy, sure why not. But for accuracy, no. Lesbian porn is made by and for straight men with straight female actresses most of the time.
     
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  10. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    That true well that good you have that one person you can talk to about that stuff I fell everyone need to have that one person they can go to talk about that stuff I really don’t have that person not sure why not
     
  11. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    Agreed. Lesbian porn is whack.
     
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  12. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    You got a point I guess it something that Someone would have to see first hand
     
  13. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    I'm trying to help bring this sub forum back to life. I was actually going to start another thread for dispelling myths about us fruits. Not sure there are even enough lesbians members here to bring it back though lol
     
  14. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    To be honest I think there are more bisexual then lesbian
     
  15. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    There's like 4 of us that post regularly enough. :p

    We are all very different though. I find similarities in some regards.
     
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  16. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    You're probably right. I thought that just as I wrote my last post. I thought shit, I'm not being inclusive enough. Whoops!
     
  17. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    Well I feel out of place now
     
  18. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    I don't pride rally, I've never liked it. I say homophibic words.. I'm like probably the worst type of fruit. I'm like a rotten fruit. :p with a worm in it. I find other gay woman to be odd. They find me odd. Maybe it's because I fell in love with my woman without being attracted to them sexually at that point, I'm not sure. See I'm not even sure if I am gay sometimes. I just love the one person. I guess I've confined my sex life to woman exclusively, but I genuinely enjoy the experiences.

    I find it easy to get with a girl where I live. Tourist town, they're on vacation, they're on the booze. Two good ingredients to sexperiment with. I find females more comforting to be around, but I'm also okay being around guys I have many more guy friends than female friends. I guess I stick with what I think I know best.
     
  19. Deejay2018

    Deejay2018 Visitor

    Wow that really a thought
     
  20. la Principessa

    la Principessa Old School HF Member

    Hey, I can respect that. I think people these days are too sensitive. If my girl and I are wearing flannels one day, we'll call each other a dyke. These things are only offensive from people who mean them in a derogatory way. Even then, I don't really care what they think about me because they're idiots.

    I do enjoy pride to a degree. But these days it's more for gay men than anyone else. And the whole bullshit that went on here with minorities fighting with each other about who's more underprivileged than the other and arguing about police being there after the Pulse shooting...I kind of felt like I was over it. I haven't been to a pride parade in two years.
     

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