I've been friends with this dude since we were 5. We would fight and argue all the time but we are like brothers basically. We're 22 now. He's always been a bit of a lowlife - he lies a lot (he'd go through phases where he'd lie about almost anything), he used to smell terrible, generally a crude dude. I usually chalk that up to his redneck upbringing and can tolerate it pretty well. Awhile back he asked me if he could live at my house, apparently his landlord was an ass and was kicking everyone out for some dumb reason. My dad OK's it and I help him move, and accidentally discover from his roomates that he couldnt pay the rent cus he was spending so much on weed. So he lied, but no big deal really, that sort of thing is typical to him. No harm to me. Everything starts out fine but he's a constant annoyance to my dad because he never cleans up after himself, and he lies. Oh, how he lies. But then he started doing things that were surprising, even for him - he started stealing. We aren't 100% sure, but we think he stole money and pills. I am absolutely positive though that he stole my ipod and then lied about it. He might have stolen other things as well. He moved out a few months ago to the midwest and I actually drove out there to visit him once. He was pretty generous and let me stay there for five days, took off from work a bit, and was accomodating. My issue is that he wants to come out here for a friend's birthday and stay at my place for a week. My dad just told me that he never wants to see this guy's face ever again. But I'm sure I could override that suggestion or at least comprimise for a night or two rather than a week. But I feel that I can't even do that. I want to tell him "No". It will likely lead to an end to my oldest friendship. But I can't see a way around it that protects my own dignity. Granted, he let me stay at his place, and that makes this even harder. But I never did the shit to him that he did to me. Can you see any way around this, or any other options? You might ask why I tolerate such a lowlife. When you're friends with a guy this long and you have such low expectations of him and you're generally a non-judgemental person, it can happen.
i wouldn't let him stay at my house unless i was perfectly okay with him stealing more stuff. but it's not your house, is it? it's your dad's house and you should respect his desire to have it respected. when you get your own place, he can stay there all he likes. i'd be the same. i've had some friends like that, and i loved them anyway. but still, you have to respect your father.
