Emotional Infidelty

What to do when your wife/girlfriend falls in love (emotionally) with another man and besides her best attempts to hide it, you can see it.

I would like to get your advice, particularly the ladies.

It is making me so jealous and angry.

 

I would be concerned with my own lack of emotional substance, or the content of it. Girlfriend isn't unhappy doing what she is doing, you are.

 

you fucking leave or be a chump...not a hard choice there

 

She is opening up to this other person.

But is she closing down with you?

 

I am not a very talkative/outgoing person. Been like this since we met. But I'm also not ice.

The guy in question is her work colleague. He is a charmer. An entertainer.

I have noted a few times now how in discussion about the state of our relationship she 'complains' about me not being outgoing enough. At the same time 80% of the chat about her work I have to hear about this guy. When she converses with him on the phone she beams with enjoyment.

 

I would say she is not closing me down but she is not doing anything to help improve the situation.I think she is just cruising and enjoying the fun relationship at work.

She is happy with the sexual part of our relationship. In fact she feels she is getting more sec than she can handle. I can say we sometimes fight about me wanting more sex than she feels we should be having/she can handle.

My worry is that the emotional relationship grow into something more than that and I'm not sure she can prevent that from happening.

 

I guess my point is, are you worried about losing her affection or are you worried about losing her exclusivity?

If she got emotionally attached to this guy, but your relationship with her remained tight, how would you feel about that?

 

she is probably not girlfriend material, maybe best to just be friends and fuck.

 

do nerds really say that?

:yikes:

There are no disbelief emoticoms. :unsure:

 

committed relationships just don't suit some people i don't think.

 

thedope, I am not sure I follow you. Please expand.

 

not really what I was referring to in any way.....

 

I feel I am being forced to compete with this guy on a personal attribute that I am not very good at.

I also fear that her continued relation with this guy may ultimately lead to us not being tight. I don't think this is what she intends, but enjoyment of this other personality may result in her neglecting our emotional relationship. I fear she might end up coming to me for sex and financial security and enjoy emotional intimacy with him.

 

She is my wife with a close to 20 year relationship with kids.

 

I must be honest and say I am also worried about losing her exclusivity.

 

Married to her. In a relationship close to 20 years.

 

Moonglow,???

 

I have to reverse that to what would I do if my husband or boyfriend did that...what would I do....and I think I would just have to accept it for being...it is what it is.....either wait patiently in the sidelines in hopes they come back or move on is all anyone reallly can do. Good luck.

 

Moonglow, I don't follow.

 

Okay, I get you.